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By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

Let's all commit ourselves to the basic civility of minding our own business. Failing that, let's go back to a time when we were nasty and judgmental, but only behind one another's backs.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

When I was 15, what I wanted in a boyfriend was just that confidence and swagger. I wanted someone who knew what he was doing, because I was just faking it. What I want for my daughter is the exact opposite.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I wish I could view the belly that oozes over the top of my pants as a badge of maternal honor. I do try. I make sure that the women whose looks I admire all have sufficient fat reserves to survive a famine, and I make a lot of snide comments about the skeletal likes of Lara Flynn Boyle and Paris Hilton.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

Courage is impulsive; it is narcissism tempered with nihilism.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I mean, I do actually think there is a qualitative difference between aborting in the early part of the first trimester and in, you know, the middle or later part of the second trimester, in a way that you feel about it in that you grow attached.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I expend far too much of my maternal energies on guilt and regret.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

The first inkling my husband had that I was thinking about suicide was when he checked my blog.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

In a perfect world, probably we'd never yell, we'd just be firm and dispassionate. But of course, everyone yells at their children.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I think I wish I had never spanked my children, but I have. And they remember every instance like they tattooed it on their palms. I think it's a terrible lesson, to use physical punishment to make a point about not behaving, not being kind to their siblings, to other people. I mean that's just absurd. But I've lost it, I understand it.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I tell myself that after four children my belly is already so stretched and flabby that I have to do origami to get my pants buttoned. One more pregnancy and I'd be doomed to elastic waists for the rest of my life.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

A good mother remembers to serve fruit at breakfast, is always cheerful and never yells, manages not to project her own neuroses and inadequacies onto her children, is an active and beloved community volunteer. She remembers to make play dates, her children's clothes fit, she does art projects with them and enjoys all their games.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

States began to realize how much money they were spending on incarceration and how much money they were spending fighting this ludicrous war on drugs that was actually counterproductive.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

Listen to the pregnant woman. Value her. She values the life growing inside her. Listen to the pregnant woman, and you cannot help but defend her right to abortion.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

If God were like a Star Wars Force linking all consciousness, I supposed I could maybe believe that. But let's just say I'm not going to be running off to India to join an ashram anytime soon.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

Why are the architects of the family-values agenda so eager to punish into the next generation? What is being served by seeking, quite literally, a tooth for a tooth?

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

In every union roles are assumed, some traditional, some not. My husband used to pay his own bills, I used to call my own repairman. But as marriages progress, you surrender areas of your own competence, often without even knowing it.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I'd never written nonfiction about the war on drugs, but I know a tremendous amount about it: I taught a class on it for seven years. I was putting into words the stuff I was teaching, and I was writing it up and thought, "Dude, you're writing a book.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

During the periods in my marriage when I chose to stay home with my kids rather than work as an attorney, it caused me no end of anxiety. Despite the fact that I knew I was contributing to our family by caring for our children, I still felt that my worth was less because I wasn't earning.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

With prodigious bravery and eviscerating humor, Roxane Gay takes on culture and politics in Bad Feminist-and gets it right, time and time again. We should all be lucky enough to be such a bad feminist.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I was a lesbian for a semester at Wesleyan - it was a graduation requirement.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

There are times as a parent when you realize that your job is not to be the parent you always imagined you'd be, the parent you always wished you had. Your job is to be the parent your child needs, given the particulars of his or her own life and nature.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

Is Valentine's Day a day to make cupcakes with your children? No, Valentine's is supposed to be a day about romantic love.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

The Q I loathe and despise, the Q every single writer I know loathes and despises, is this one: 'Where,' the reader asks, 'do you get your ideas?' It's a simple question, and my usual response is a kind of helpless, 'I don't know.'

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

If only shame were a reliable engine for behavior modification. All it does is make me feel bad, which inspires me to bust open a bag of cheese popcorn, which then makes me feel crappy about my weight.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

Most writers spend their lives standing a little apart from the crowd, watching and listening and hoping to catch that tiny hint of despair, that sliver of malice, that makes them think, 'Aha, here is the story.'

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

One of the darkest, deepest shames so many of us mothers feel nowadays is our fear that we are Bad Mothers, that we are failing our children and falling far short of our own ideals.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

Here are my Mommy Messages: Wear a condom and test your Molly.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

If you focus all of your emotional passion on your children and you neglect the relationship that brought that family into existence... eventually, things can go really, really wrong.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I tend to approach giving interviews with the same sense of circumspection and restraint as I approach my writing. That is to say, virtually none. When asked what I made of blogs like my own, blogs written by parents about their children, I said, 'A blog like this is narcissism in its most obscene flowering.'

By Anonym 15 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

There is an inverse correlation between the cleanliness of a bathroom and my 3-year-old daughter's need to move her bowels.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

In fact if I see you drinking I'll come down on you like a ton of bricks and call your mom.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I love reader mail, and I do read it, but I won't read hate mail.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I've never really been interested in recreational drug use.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I believe that mothers should tell the truth, even - no, especially - when the truth is difficult. It's always easier, and in the short term can even feel right, to pretend everything is okay, and to encourage your children to do the same. But concealment leads to shame, and of all hurts shame is the most painful.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I did not want to raise a genetically compromised child. I did not want my children to have to contend with the massive diversion of parental attention, and the consequences of being compelled to care for their brother after I died. I wanted a genetically perfect baby, and because that was something I could control, I chose to end his life.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

Where would the memoir be without bipolar writers? I mean, that's what - that whole oversharing thing is really a very clear symptom of bipolar disorder. And I'm not saying that every, you know, I'm not accusing every memoirist of being bipolar. But I think in a way it's kind of a gift.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I believe the approach we take to talking to our kids about drugs can, in some cases, mean the difference between life and death. So my approach is really simple: I just don't want them to die. And I want them to be able to save someone's life if they see someone die.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I was a federal public defender during the most important years of the drug war. I saw people go to jail for nothing, and go to jail for a long time.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

For a couple of months there I was shrieking like a banshee.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I had a second trimester abortion. I was pregnant with a much-wanted child who was diagnosed with a genetic abnormality. I made a choice to terminate the pregnancy. It was my third pregnancy, and I was very obviously showing. More important, I could feel the baby move.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

Despite the fact that in America we incarcerate more juveniles for life terms than in any other country in the world, the truth is that the vast majority of youth offenders will one day be released. The question is simple and stark. Do we want to help them change or do we want to help them become even more violent and dangerous?

By Anonym 15 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

The legalization of drugs, a proliferation of a public health approach to drug use and drug addition, a compassionate mental health system. And can we just say gender equality and the end of mass incarceration and the final shedding of the vestiges of a slave-based nation? Can we have that, too? Can I have it all?

By Anonym 16 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

In the end the real wealth of the Hungarian Jewish community had not been packed in crates and boxes and loaded onto that train. What is the value to a daughter of a single pair of Sabbath candlesticks passed down from her mother and grandmother before her, generation behind generation, for a hundred, even a thousand, years? Beyond price, beyond measure. And what of ten thousand pairs of similar candlesticks, when all the grandmothers, mothers, and daughters are dead? No more than the smelted weight of the silver. The wealth of the Jews of Hungary, of all of Europe, was to be found not in the laden boxcars of the Gold Train but in the grandmothers and mothers and daughters themselves, in the doctors and lawyers, the grain dealers and psychiatrists, the writers and artists who had created a culture of sophistication, of intellectual and artistic achievement. And that wealth, everything of real value, was all but extinguished.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

If a good mother is one who loves her child more than anyone else in the world, I am not a good mother. I am in fact a bad mother. I love my husband more than I love my children.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

So many women today have become so focused on their children, they've developed these romantic entanglements with their children's lives, and the husbands are secondary. They're left out. And the romantic focus is on the children.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

In a perfect world I think we would microdose with LSD instead of giving teenagers Adderall. But I'd like to see it studied first.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

If your white privilege and class privilege protects you, then you have an obligation to use that privilege to take stands that work to end the injustice that grants that privilege in the first place.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

There is no fundamental truth and there's nothing to be connected to: I just believe that [LSD] makes you feel better.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

My father is sure that Israel keeps the Holocaust from happening again. I worry that it might hasten its recurrence.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Ayelet Waldman

I mean, I absolutely call myself a feminist. And by that, I mean a woman who believes that your opportunities should not be constrained by your gender, that women should be entitled to the same opportunities as men.