Best 871 of Shame quotes - MyQuotes

By Anonym 15 Sep

Rachel Lloyd

Children who are victimized through sexual abuse often begin to develop deeply held tenets that shape their sense of self: 'My worth is my sexuality. I'm dirty and shameful. I have no right to my own physical boundaries.' That shapes their ideas about the world around them: 'No one will believe me. Telling the truth results in bad consequences. People can't be trusted.' It doesn't take long for children to being to act in accordance with these belief systems. For girls who have experienced incest, sexual abuse, or rape, the boundaries between love, sex, and pain become blurred. Secrets are normal, and shame is a constant.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Shane Arbuthnott

Poking at the memories, at the guilt she felt over her sister, was like prodding a bear that could wake and consume her at any moment.

By Anonym 20 Sep

Jenny Lawson

When you come out of the grips of a depression there is an incredible relief, but not one you feel allowed to celebrate. Instead, the feeling of victory is replaced with anxiety that it will happen again, and with shame and vulnerability when you see how your illness affected your family, your work, everything left untouched while you struggled to survive.

By Anonym 20 Sep

Katy Kauffman

When you hear the haunting melody of guilt and shame, drown it out with God's song of forgiveness and love.

By Anonym 16 Sep

S. D. Simper

I cannot be offended or shamed by the truth

By Anonym 14 Sep

John Bradshaw

Shame is the root of all addictions.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Louisa Leontiades

My needs were covered by layer upon layer of denial. I was scrambling for reasons. But the truth was, even if he had had a successful career, I would have used it as an excuse to complain about neglect. He could never actually win. I was running a very common script, that of deciphering why he wasn’t enough for me and why I needed someone else—as if someone else could give me everything. As if there was one person who could be my Mr. Right and who could satisfy every ever-changing facet of my personality. At that point I still believed that this was possible…desirable…and necessary.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Malorie Blackman

Did you love Melanie?" asked Adam unexpectedly. There was no pause before I shook my head. "That's a shame," said Adam. "Why?" "Well, someone as special as your daughter should've been... made with love.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Sherman Alexie

I'm dying from about ninety-nine kinds of shame

By Anonym 17 Sep

Marguerite Yourcenar

More sensitive to Rome's prejudices than I was aware, I recalled that although they grant sensuality a rôle they see only shameful folly in love;

By Anonym 13 Sep

Laura Owens

I feel no shame about having paintings be as grandiose and ridiculous as possible.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Jock Sturges

I'm the last person who has any desire to instruct anybody in shame. That's no errand for me.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Tare Munzara

My greatest gift ever is public embarrassment and shame

By Anonym 18 Sep

Joel Annesley

Shyness is a safety mechanism to save you from the fear of being wrong, and the ridicule that comes along with it. As human beings, we crave love, acceptance, and belonging. As part of this, we fear the opposite: shame and ridicule. If we lack confidence in ourselves, we constantly fear this—and seek external validation.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Brene Brown

Empathy heals shame; sympathy exacerbates shame. We don't want people to feel sorry for us; we want people to be with us.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Patti Feuereisen

At the time I was being molested, I thought I was the only one. My father controlled everything in our house and he always said that what was happening to me was natural and that I should accommodate him. Even though I have to look back sometimes, I am moving forward. And even though it's painful for me to face my mother's complacency, doing so has helped me understand that it wasn't my fault. If I could have read something at the time about sex abuse, if people had talked openly about, I could have been saved so many years of guilt and shame and secrecy. Each time I talk about my incest, I get rid of some of that shame and guilt. Each person I share with, no matter what their response, takes another piece of the pain away.

By Anonym 20 Sep

Jacek Dukaj

Wyobraź sobie […], że wisisz na sieci stalowych nici rozpiętej między tysiącami ludzi, twoją rodziną, znajomymi, sąsiadami, „towarzystwem” , a każda nić zakończona jest zadziorowym haczykiem, wkłutym w mięśnie, do kości… I teraz spróbuj poruszyć się wbrew ruchom cudzym, połamiesz sobie kręgosłup, teraz spróbuj powiedzieć coś wbrew cudzym gardłom i językom, wyrwiesz sobie swój język, teraz zaprzecz Wstydowi!

By Anonym 16 Sep

Fyodor Dostoyevsky

It ended by my almost believing (perhaps actually believing) that this was perhaps my normal condition. But at first, in the beginning, what agonies I endured in that struggle! I did not believe it was the same with other people, and all my life I hid this fact about myself as a secret. I was ashamed (even now, perhaps, I am ashamed): I got to the point of feeling a sort of secret abnormal, despicable enjoyment in returning home to my corner on some disgusting Petersburg night, acutely conscious that that day I had committed a loathsome action again, that what was done could never be undone, and secretly, inwardly gnawing, gnawing at myself for it, tearing and consuming myself till at last the bitterness turned into a sort of shameful accursed sweetness, and at last—into positive real enjoyment! Yes, into enjoyment, into enjoyment! I insist upon that. I have spoken of this because I keep wanting to know for a fact whether other people feel such enjoyment? I will explain; the enjoyment was just from the too intense consciousness of one’s own degradation; it was from feeling oneself that one had reached the last barrier, that it was horrible, but that it could not be otherwise; that there was no escape for you; that you never could become a different man; that even if time and faith were still left you to change into something different you would most likely not wish to change; or if you did wish to, even then you would do nothing; because perhaps in reality there was nothing for you to change into. And the worst of it was, and the root of it all, that it was all in accord with the normal fundamental laws of over-acute consciousness, and with the inertia that was the direct result of those laws, and that consequently one was not only unable to change but could do absolutely nothing. Thus it would follow, as the result of acute consciousness, that one is not to blame in being a scoundrel; as though that were any consolation to the scoundrel once he has come to realise that he actually is a scoundrel.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Donna Tartt

The shame that tormented me was all the more corrosive for having no very clear origin: I didn't know why I felt so tainted, and worthless, and wrong-only that I did, and whenever I looked up from my books I was swamped by slimy waters rushing in from all sides.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Billy Joel

You get paid like a really good call girl. Walking offstage is like the walk of shame.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Max Gladstone

There’s no shame in general peace. Each specific peace holds its own.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Michael Bassey Johnson

Those who make hostility a daily manner are often left in the lurch at difficult times.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Jordan B. Peterson

Beauty shames the ugly. Strength shames the weak. Death shames the living - and the Ideal shames us all.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Gary Kemp

It's a shame because we experienced probably the greatest thing - in art, in pop - we'll ever do. And it would be good to sit around and talk about it.

By Anonym 15 Sep

William Langland

There smites nothing so sharp, nor smelleth so sour as shame.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Trudy Metzger

Denial forces victims to retreat in lifeless existence, dieing in the shadows of buried trauma and painful memories.

By Anonym 19 Sep

John Kramer

There is no shame in ignorance and failing; there is only shame in not being willing to learn and repeating the same errors over again.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Fyodor Dostoevsky

And so in that very shame I suddenly begin a hymn.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Winograd Arie M

Picture your worst fear or most shameful experience becoming associated with an area of your body, and then magnify this image many times over. Within the construct of body dysmorphic disorder, a body part takes on an identity of its own. The body area of concern becomes profoundly associated with the individual's sense of self: The individual with BDD misses the forest through the trees, and rather than seeing many different body parts that together shape outward appearance, the despised physical feature becomes the focal point of their existence. It can easily become the singular element within the person's life and a gauge that determines the entirety of their self-worth.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Sophocles

Money! Money's the curse of man, none greater. That's what wrecks cities, banishes men from homes, Tempts and deludes the most well-meaning soul, Pointing out the way to infamy and shame." - Creon

By Anonym 18 Sep

Beth Gutcheon

Sacrifice is a necessary response to evil. You can only shame evil by showing them honor.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Rick Riordan

Blowfish, did you say?" "Ah, no. Blofis, actually." "Oh, I see," Poseidon said. "A shame. I quite like blowfish.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Eliza Farnham

Our own theological Church, as we know, has scorned and vilified the body till it has seemed almost a reproach and a shame to have one, yet at the same time has credited it with power to drag the soul to perdition.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Winograd Arie M

Imagine experiencing pervasive and perpetual sensations of dread and shame, the sort of visceral response that you might have when your body reacts to a physical threat. Envision how distressing it would be if you experienced these exact same feelings after viewing yourself in a reflective surface or a photograph. Imagine what it might be like if your body was the source of extreme feelings of anger, disgust, anxiety, fear, and hopelessness. Try to visualize how it might be if viewing your outward appearance triggered a reaction usually associated with a perilous situation, and how disconcerting it would be if every time you looked at yourself you experienced primal feelings of terror. If you have not had such an experience, it is probably quite difficult to comprehend how it is possible to have such a reaction to one's own body. This, though, is the very tormenting reality for individuals who suffer from body dysmorphic disorder (BDD).

By Anonym 16 Sep

Kwame Anthony Appiah

It's important to understand that while honor is an entitlement to respect--and shame comes when you lose that title--a person of honor cares first of all not about being respected but about being worthy of respect.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Brene Brown

I think we can all agree that feeling shame is an incredibly painful experience. What we often don't realize is that perpetrating shame is equally as painful, and no one does that with the precision of a partner or a parent. These are the people who know us the best and who bear witness to our vulnerabilities and fears. Thankfully, we can apologize for shaming someone we love, but the truth is that those shaming comments leave marks. And shaming someone we love around vulnerability is the most serious of all security breaches. Even if we apologize, we've done serious damage because we've demonstrated our willingness to use sacred information as a weapon.

By Anonym 15 Sep

John Bradshaw

DENIAL OF EMOTIONS Our culture does not handle emotions well. We like folks to be happy and fine. We learn rituals of acting happy and fine at an early age. I can remember many times telling people "I'm fine" when I felt like the world was caving in on me. I often think of Senator Muskie who cried on the campaign trail when running for president. From that moment on he was history. We don't want a president who has emotions. We would rather have one that can act! Emotions are certainly not acceptable in the workplace. True expression of any emotions that are not "positive" are met with disdain.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Samuel Johnson

An infallible characteristic of meanness is cruelty. Men who have practiced tortures on animals without pity, relating them without shame, how can they still hold their heads among human beings?

By Anonym 19 Sep

Agnostic Zetetic

We’re not broken. We’re not in the wrong bodies. We’re not inadequate. We’re not lesser. We’re not unwanted. We’re not fraudulent. We’re not undesirable. That’s all just a set of lies we tell to soothe the experience of the prisons we put ourselves in.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Jerry Spinelli

Her smile put the sunflower to shame.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Renee Fredrickson

Memory repression thrives in shame, secrecy, and shock. The shame and degradation experienced during sexual assault is profound, especially for children who have no concept of what is happening to them or why. Sexual abuse is so bizarre and horrible that the frightened child feels compelled to bury the event deep inside his or her mind.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Christopher Dines

Shame attacks can be triggered by the most unremarkable events. We might smell a scent that subconsciously reminds the body of a shameful or traumatic event.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Abigail Barnette

Never be timid about your own pleasure. Don't be ashamed to come.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Robert Uttaro

Always know there are friends somewhere rooting for you. There are people you don’t know, always praying for you and lifting you before God. - Jenee, from "To the Survivors".

By Anonym 13 Sep

Anne Lamott

Good therapy helps. Good friends help. Pretending that we are doing better than we are doesn't. Shame doesn't. Being heard does.

By Anonym 13 Sep

Phyllis Schlafly

Bite us once, shame on the dog; bite us repeatedly, shame on us for allowing it.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Nikki Sex

Find one person to trust—there need only be one. With them, share every shame, every secret and listen to theirs… with love. Bare hearts and souls until there is understanding. Of a certainty, such honest exposure is the first step toward happiness. — André Chevalier

By Anonym 15 Sep

Nikki Sex

Abuse is a parasite that feeds off hate and shame, growing in size and strength with silence.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Brene Brown

Shame resilient cultures nurture folks who are much more open to soliciting, accepting, and incorporating feedback. These cultures also nuturn engaged, tenacious people who expect to have to try and try again to get it right - people who are much more willing to get innovative and creative in their efforts. A sense of worthiness inspires us to be vulnerable, share openly, and persevere. Shame keeps us small, resentful, and afraid. In shame-prone cultures, where parents, leaders, and administrators consciously or unconsciously encourage people to connect their self-worth to what they produce, I see disengagement, blame, gossip, stagnation, favoritism, and a total dirth of creativity and innovation.

By Anonym 16 Sep

John Dewey

. . . have not some religions, including the most influential forms of Christianity, taught that the heart of man is totally corrupt? How could the course of religion in its entire sweep not be marked by practices that are shameful in their cruelty and lustfulness, and by beliefs that are degraded and intellectually incredible? What else than what we can find could be expected, in the case of people having little knowledge and no secure method of knowing; with primitive institutions, and with so little control of natural forces that they lived in a constant state of fear?