Best 113 of Avoidance quotes - MyQuotes

By Anonym 18 Sep

Helen S. Rosenau

Russian Dolls: One excellent thing about being human is that we're fast learners. When we find a trick that works, we practice it, even if the skill means being better at avoiding karmic homework than facing or resolving it.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Sebastian Barry

I had no desire to be seen by anyone, or talk to anyone. Sometimes out walking I would be in such a peculiar state of mind that I would rush home at the merest hint of another person.

By Anonym 18 Sep

David L. Calof

She's terrified that all these sensations and images are coming out of her — but I think she's even more terrified to find out why." Carla's description was typical of survivors of chronic childhood abuse. Almost always, they deny or minimize the abusive memories. They have to: it's too painful to believe that their parents would do such a thing.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Ottessa Moshfegh

It was already getting dark out, but I kept my sunglasses on. I didn't want to have to look anybody in the eye. I didn't want to relate to anybody too keenly. Plus, the fluorescent lights at the drug store were blinding. If I could have purchased my medications from a vending machine, I would have paid double for them.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Criss Jami

The hardest chore to do, and to do right, is to think. Why do you think the common man would choose labor, partially, as a distraction from his own thoughts? It is because that level of stress, he most absolutely abhors.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Tom Mcneal

Well, it is true. Sometimes avoiding something can give it more and more meaning rather than less and less.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Jeanette Winterson

Living with life is very hard. Mostly we do our best to stifle life--to be tame or to be wanton. To be tranquillised or raging. Extremes have the same effect; they insulate us from the intensity of life. And extremes--whether of dullness or fury--successfully prevent feeling. I know our feelings can be so unbearable that we employ ingenious strategies--unconscious strategies--to keep those feelings away. We do a feelings-swap, where we avoid feeling sad or lonely or afraid or inadequate, and feel angry instead. It can work the other way, too--sometimes you do need to feel angry, not inadequate; sometimes you do need to feel love and acceptance, and not the tragic drama of your life. It takes courage to feel the feeling--and not trade it on the feelings-exchange, or even transfer it altogether to another person. You know how in couples one person is always doing all the weeping or the raging while the other one seems so calm and reasonable? I understood that feelings were difficult for me although I was overwhelmed by them.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Elaina Marie

We are not entitled to assume or assert that other people should change to make it easier for us to avoid changing ourselves.

By Anonym 14 Sep

Robert Kiyosaki

The avoidance of money is just as psychotic as being attached to money.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Bill Crawford

When our purpose becomes avoidance, our life becomes a void.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Mark W. Muesse

The problem with trying to find your happiness through avoidance is the nature of reality. Reality simply does not allow us to evade unwanted experiences. Sure, we might be able to escape a few {...] but the evasive life often comes at a cost, like having to live your life in terror. Even if we can successfully ward off some terrifying experiences, we can not advert them all. Particularly, the most unpleasant ones: sickness, old age and death. If our strategy has been to flea unpleasant circumstances, when they come to meet us - as they surely will - our suffering will be great indeed.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Marsha Hinds

Even a man with boots on should avoid the wet.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Ruth Padel

Collect yourself: to smother what you feel, recall to order, summon in one place; making, like Orpheus, a system against loss.

By Anonym 20 Sep

Warwick Middleton

With respect to the acceptance of dissociative disorders, as with most issues in life, it is counterproductive to spend time trying to convince people of things they don't want to know.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Renee Fredrickson

Sometimes buried memories of abuse emerge spontaneously. A triggering event or catalyst starts the memories flowing. The survivor then experiences the memories as a barrage of images about the abuse and related details. Memories that are retrieved in this manner are relatively easy to understand and believe because the person remembering is so flooded with coherent, consistent information.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Michael Bassey Johnson

Being satisfied with the little we have; academically, spiritually, financially, ecumenically or otherwise will prevent a lot of problems from coming to us, and our dependence in our abilities and talents will go as far as bringing us satisfaction in life.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Catherine Lacey

But we always avoided talking about these things—difficult things—and I wondered if that meant we'd be a little uncomfortable with or disappointed by each other for the rest of our lives.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Helen S. Rosenau

Nobody Home: Until we're ready, we're pretty much primed for denial. Even on the river of change, we're most of us slow rowers.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Iris Murdoch

One might have all sorts of reasons for avoiding people. It's none of our business.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Sonali Deraniyagala

The more I remember, the more inconsolable I will be, I've told myself. But now increasingly I don't tussle with my memories. I want to remember. I want to know. Perhaps I can better tolerate being inconsolable now. Perhaps I suspect that remembering won't make me any more inconsolable. Or less.

By Anonym 20 Sep

Robin Hobb

When has been disappointed for so long, hope becomes the enemy. One cannot be dashed to the earth unless one is lifted first, and I learned to avoid hope.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Laura Davis

Many survivors struggle to believe the abuse happened. They don’t want to believe it. It’s too painful to think about. They don’t want to accuse family members or face the terrible loss involved in realizing “a loved one” hurt them; they don’t want to rock the boat.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Ottessa Moshfegh

I kept my head down, away from the biting air and the joy of the holiday. I didn't want to be reminded of Christmases past. No associations, no heartstrings snagged on a tree in a window, no memories.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Harriet Lerner

If you pay attention, you may find that it is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want to feel comfortable, so you avoid doing the thing that will evoke fear and other disquieting emotions. Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run, but it will never make you less afraid.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Kevin Leman

The only way to avoid failure is to sit in a corner and do nothing.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Ottessa Moshfegh

I steered clear of anything that might pique my intellect or make me envious or anxious. I kept my head down.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Steven Magee

Smart people avoid smart meters.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Sonali Deraniyagala

the reality of being here eludes me, I can’t focus, I am dazed. And I want to stay this way. If I have too much clarity, I will be undone, I fear.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Barack Obama

No, what's troubling is the gap between the magnitude of our challenges and the smallness of our politics--the ease with which we are distracted by the petty and trivial, our chronic avoidance of tough decisions, our seeming inability to build a working concensus to tackle any big problem.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Sara Baume

I don't want to say hello, nor do I want him to know that I've seen him and failed to say hello.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Donna Goddard

The worst person to get away from is oneself.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Antonio R. Damasio

We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day. (p.28)

By Anonym 18 Sep

Suzette Boon

Our inner experience is that which we think, feel, remember, perceive, sense, decide, plan and predict. These experiences are actually mental actions, or mental activity (Van der Hart et al., 2006). Mental activity, in which we engage all the time, may or may not be accompanied by behavioral actions. It is essential that you become aware of, learn to tolerate and regulate, and even change major mental actions that affect your current life, such as negative beliefs, and feelings or reactions to the past the interfere with the present. However, it is impossible to change inner experiences if you are avoiding them because you are afraid, ashamed or disgusted by them. Serious avoidance of you inner experiences is called experiential avoidance (Hayes, Wilson, Gifford, & Follettte, 1996), or the phobia of inner experience (Steele, Van der Hart, & Nijenhuis, 2005; Van der Hart et al., 2006).

By Anonym 13 Sep

Brian Eno

I often work by avoidance.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Marcelo Figueras

This is the problem about thinking about something else to take your mind off something. It works for a little while, but in the end you always come back to the thing you were trying not to think about, only now whatever it was is worse.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Gina Greenlee

Embrace those parts of yourself that you've skillfully avoided until now. That's your true adventure.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Steven Redhead

Avoid being brainwashed or controlled by the opinions or attitudes of others.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Caitlyn Paige

There are some things in life that we try to ignore, thinking that maybe if we don't see the problem, it won't see us when in reality, it's only getting bigger.

By Anonym 20 Sep

Marty Rubin

What you're afraid to think must be the truth.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Dean Koontz

I knew that suffering can purify, that it's a kind of fire that can be worth enduring, but there were degrees of it to which I chose not to subject myself.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Shannon Wheeler

The key to productivity is to rotate your avoidance techniques.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Charles Dickens

My sister having so much to do, was going to church vicariously, that is to say, Joe and I were going.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Bryant Mcgill

If you avoid your truthful emotions and pain you will implode and contract into a diminished and feeble state.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Jo Walton

I can't talk about my childhood at all, because cannot say "I" when I mean "we," and if I say "we" it leads to a conversation about how I have a dead sister, instead of what I want to talk about. I found that out in the summer. So I don't talk about it.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Nicole Krauss

He learned to live with the truth. Not to accept it, but to live with it. It was like living with an elephant. His room was tiny, and every morning he had to squeeze around the truth just to get to the bathroom. To reach the armoire to get a pair of underpants he had to crawl under the truth, playing it wouldn't choose the moment to sit on his face. At night, when he closed his eyes, he felt it looming above him.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Sharon Weil

Shame often causes me to hide my mistakes from others. But really, when I make a mistake, I should make it loud and clear, so I can see that it didn’t work as a strategy, and be able to make a course correction, either by myself or with the help of others.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Northern Adams

Avoidance therapy does not work. One major reason for that is because Avoidance Therapy (diversion, think yourself happy, positive affirmations) is predicated on the validity of 'Failure of Will.' Depression is not a choice.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Jack Campbell

Unfortunately, he had no training in the healers' arts. But if he ever encountered the person who had struck Mechanic Mari like that, Alain knew he would use the skills he did have to even the score. He did not know why he resolved to do that, but he did. At least he was fairly sure that his reason was not love. Whatever love was, other than something to be avoided. Master Mechanic Mari had shown clear signs of being concerned when Alain spoke of it, and had denied experiencing love with other Mechanics, so perhaps Mechanics also were warned to avoid love. It must be a very dangerous thing.

By Anonym 17 Sep

V. M. Marsh

Nope. She was out of her mind, and I was out of here before I got dragged along on her crazy train.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Chris Cleave

Her life was one endless loop that she raced around, with steep banked curves so she could never change or slow down. It just delivered her back to herself, over and over and over.