Best 85 of Codependency quotes - MyQuotes

By Anonym 16 Sep

Dmitry Dyatlov

I find that life is much more stress free when you're authentic, speak from the heart, wear what you want, wake up when you feel like it, and your mother doesn't let you be homeless.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Daniel Marques

There's no point in fighting for a woman that is rude and boring, just because she's hot. Such woman shortens your lifespan.

By Anonym 20 Sep

Tracy A Malone

When you recover from Narcissistic abuse, look for courage in your heart. You can rebuild as long as you never surrender.

By Anonym 16 Sep

John Geddes

...I'm constantly agitated, restless - I work moments like worry beads until I see your face...

By Anonym 16 Sep

Mary Crocker Cook

It also strikes me that male-to-male bonding can create a gender role conflict, as it challenges the myth of full independence. Heroism is an exception. In fact, heroism has a long tradition as part of manhood. Bonds formed through natural disaster or war are exceptions to the typical “self-reliance” rules. These are op-portunities for men to experience a type of connection with each other that is ordinarily prohibited by the “rules” of manhood.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Tracy A Malone

Forget the past, you cannot change it. Always remember the lesson, and stay the hell away from your abuser.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Henry Cloud

Problems arise when people act as if their "boulders" are daily loads, and refuse help, or as if their “daily loads" are boulders they shouldn’t have to carry. The results of these two instances are either perpetual pain or irresponsibility.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Mary Crocker Cook

Along with our over-giving is our own conditional giving pattern, which can fuel so much of our resentment and feelings of “victimization” by the people to whom we are giving. We may be completely unaware of our expectations of those we assist, and our own anger and resentment may catch us off guard. This is why our martyrdom is so hard on those around us. They are aware of the price we are exacting, even when we are in denial about our own motives and expectations.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Tracy A Malone

Always do the right thing, despite the games someone else is playing.

By Anonym 20 Sep

Tracy A Malone

When you struggle with fear and trust issues, be aware that you may not trust yourself. You are the first person you must learn to trust.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Mary Crocker Cook

Few men realize how much of their lives are lived in pursuit of the values our culture has traditionally associated with masculinity. These values – a primary focus on work, logical thinking and always being in emotional control – have many benefits to men and their families. When taken to extremes, the pursuit of traditional masculine values becomes a cage for feelings, a stranglehold on life itself.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Christopher Dines

Isms’ are described as transference of addictive patterns of dysfunctional behaviour, passed down from generation to generation. For instance, if a mother was an alcoholic who never made it into recovery, her behaviour would leave a mark on her children, husband, etc. Unless her adult children join some sort of recovery programme and adopt the mindfulness practice, they will have very similar behaviour traits to their mother but minus the alcohol abuse. There is a strong possibility that they will become codependent and form relationships with other codependents or alcoholics.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Oliver Markus Malloy

It's so exhausting, so mentally and emotionally draining when you care about a drug addict and they never miss an opportunity to disappoint, manipulate or hurt you.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Tim Clinton

Often, our misunderstandings about love are born in disruptive family relationships, where someone was either one-up or one-down to an extreme. There is an appropriate and necessary difference in the balance of power between parents and young children, but in the best situations, there should be no power struggles by the time those children have become adults - just deep connection, trust, and respect between people who sincerely care about each other. In disruptive families, children are taught to remain one-up or one-down into adulthood. And this produces immature adults who either seek to dominate others (one-up) or who allow themselves to be dominated (one-down) in their relationships - one powerful and one needy, one enabling and one addicted, one decisive and one confused. In relationships with these people, manipulation abounds. Especially when they start to feel out of control.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Tracy A Malone

The greatest gift we give ourselves is to give up the need for vindication. Trust in karma, move on and learn to let go.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Tracy A Malone

Their is a lot of life after "I don't give a shit." What will your life look like when you don't give a shit?

By Anonym 20 Sep

Mary Crocker Cook

With intimacy comes the possibility of “engulfment” or being taken hostage by the demands of others. We may have distorted perceptions of the “demands” and obligations placed upon us by those who claim to love us. Trusting that love to be unconditional is almost impossible for us, and we are always scanning for the unstated “subtext” or hidden “agenda” connected to this love.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Theresa Jackson

Healthy levels of narcissism and self-enhancement are necessary, with a low level of self-enhancement being detrimental to our wellbeing and success.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Theresa Jackson

In individuals who initially felt defected, bad or “low value,” the positive feelings gained from attention and approval can lead to a habit of seeking out similar experiences repetitively to an unhealthy degree

By Anonym 20 Sep

Tracy A Malone

You may feel scared when starting again. Pull out your bravery and blaze a new life.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Jacqueline Edgington

They are called stuckerpillers because they get stuck together. They depend so much on each other even when they become unhappy living together. They can’t leave each other because they’ve become one. They lose their own identity and then they get confused. They become helpless. When one stuckerpiller wants to go in one direction and the other stuckerpiller wants to go in the opposite direction, they end up pulling against each other, never really getting anywhere.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Aletheia Luna

Because empaths can see the world through their partner’s point of view, they frequently tend to completely mesh with the viewpoints of their abusers. So when an empath is told that he or she is uncaring from a narcissistic partner, the empath will genuinely feel as though they are a horrible person due to the fact that they can feel and embody the emotions of their partners.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Eknath Easwaren

We each can foster loving and kind relationships through meditation and repeating mantras.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Tracy A Malone

Don't let fear of your unknown future paralyze you. You get to write the next chapter so get out your crayon. Dream it plan how you will get there and build it.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Grace W. Wroldson

It wasn't so much about breaking free of him, as it was about breaking free of me.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Beverly Engel

If you live your life to please everyone else, you will continue to feel frustrated and powerless. This is because what others want may not be good for you. You are not being mean when you say NO to unreasonable demands or when you express your ideas, feelings, and opinions, even if they differ from those of others.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Melody Beattie

Reactionaries...just feeling urgent and compulsive is enough to hurt us. Someone does something, so we must do something back Someone says something, so we must say something back. Someone feels a certain way, so we must feel a certain way. WE JUMP INTO THE FIRST FEELING THAT COMES OUR WAY AND THEN WALLOW IT.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Robin Sacredfire

People that can’t control their behavior have a problem with discipline. But lack of discipline over the body originates in a restless mind. The restless mind does not stop because it is not at peace. The mind cannot be at peace if the heart is in distress. A heart in distress is in search for love. The less love is in the heart, the more thoughts are in the mind, and as a consequence, the more troubled is life. We then look at what reflects back at us in the form of lack of love but it is just and always a reflection of what is and has been within us. Nevertheless, we can’t love the reflection expecting it to vanish into love; And, we can’t love ourselves when we are constantly vanishing into our reflection. We can only understand that both are the same; and, in loving both, none will remain as it was. In doing so, we lose our ego and our reputation but win love.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Dennis Merritt Jones

Many of us live in denial of who we truly are because we fear losing someone or something-and there are times that if we don't rock the boat, too often the one we lose is ourselves...It feels good to be accepted, loved, and approved of by others, but often the membership fee to belong to that club is far too high of a price to pay.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Tracy A Malone

Everything happens because there was a lesson you needed to learn. Move on from the messenger they were not the lesson. Find the lesson and you will never repeat it again.

By Anonym 17 Sep

Melody Beattie

Once they have been affected---once "it" sets in---codependency takes on a life of its own. It is similar to catching pneumonia or picking up a destructive habit. Once you've got it, you've got it. If you want to get rid of it, YOU have to do something to make it go away. It doesn't matter whose fault it is. Your codependency becomes your problem; solving your problems is your responsibility.

By Anonym 20 Sep

Tracy A Malone

When you hold onto anger it eats at your soul. Anger never changes someone elses heart, but it will change yours.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Tracy A Malone

People pleasing is a very dangerous lifestyle. In the end you lose yourself in the needs of others.

By Anonym 20 Sep

Tracy A Malone

When struggling to forgive yourself you must talk to yourself as if you were your own mother. Would you tell your child to forgive herself for not knowing something at the time?

By Anonym 15 Sep

David Stafford

But codependency is inappropriate, over-the-top loyalty, caring and supportiveness.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Tracy A Malone

Recovery from emotional abuse is a unique journey for everyone. Start by controlling what you can, grab a hold of your new chapter. Learn to let go of the past, because you never really had control of that.

By Anonym 20 Sep

Tracy A Malone

When you forgive it means you are ready to walk away from the fight.

By Anonym 20 Sep

Tracy A Malone

When did my life go from a Hallmark movie to a Lifetime movie?

By Anonym 16 Sep

Beverly Engel

It is only when we feel deprived that we resent giving to others. Self-care does not mean you stop caring about others; it just means you start caring more about you. Start thinking about yourself more and others less. Since you have a choice between taking care of someone else, or giving to yourself, try choosing yourself sometimes.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Sunday Adelaja

So many mothers are unable to let their children go into the adult life and become literally attached to them giving rise to codependency

By Anonym 20 Sep

Tracy A Malone

You are enough, you can care for yourself. Stop believing the narcissists lies and do the work to heal.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Tracy A Malone

Betrayal is a double edge sword. When victims are betrayed, they struggle to find the reasons 'why' and they resist healing. Release the anger, because holding onto it means you still care.

By Anonym 20 Sep

David Stafford

Whenever you feel compelled to put others first at the expense of yourself, you are denying your own reality, your own identity.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Darlene Lancer

Allowing others to suffer the consequences of their own actions, without enabling them, is the best motivation for them to undertake the difficult task of change.

By Anonym 16 Sep

Tracy A Malone

Everyone has fears, it is the bravery of heart that triumphs over all fears.

By Anonym 18 Sep

David Stafford

Recovery [from codependency] may not always be comfortable at first for the other people in one's life. But it is always worth it because, actually, nobody ever respects a 'doormat'.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Melody Beattie

We Are Lovable Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay. —Codependent No More Do you ever find yourself thinking: How could anyone possibly love me? For many of us, this is a deeply ingrained belief that can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Thinking we are unlovable can sabotage our relationships with co-workers, friends, family members, and other loved ones. This belief can cause us to choose, or stay in, relationships that are less than we deserve because we don’t believe we deserve better. We may become desperate and cling as if a particular person was our last chance at love. We may become defensive and push people away. We may withdraw or constantly overreact. While growing up, many of us did not receive the unconditional love we deserved. Many of us were abandoned or neglected by important people in our life. We may have concluded that the reason we weren’t loved was because we were unlovable. Blaming ourselves is an understandable reaction, but an inappropriate one. If others couldn’t love us, or love us in ways that worked, that’s not our fault. In recovery, we’re learning to separate ourselves from the behavior of others. And we’re learning to take responsibility for our healing, regardless of the people around us. Just as we may have believed that we’re unlovable, we can become skilled at practicing the belief that we are lovable. This new belief will improve the quality of our relationships. It will improve our most important relationship: our relationship with our self. We will be able to let others love us and become open to the love and friendship we deserve. Today, help me be aware of and release any self-defeating beliefs I have about being unlovable. Help me begin, today, to tell myself that I am lovable. Help me practice this belief until it gets into my core and manifests itself in my relationships.

By Anonym 19 Sep

Sam Keen

The psyche cannot tolerate a vacuum of love. In the severely abused or deprived child, pain, dis-ease, and violance rush in to fill the void. In the average person in our culture, who has been only "normally" deprived of touch, anxiety and an insatiable hunger for posessions replace the missing eros. The child lacking a sense of welcome, joyous belonging, gratuitous security, will learn to hoard the limited supply of affection. According to the law of psychic compensation, not being held leads to holding on, grasping, addiction, posessiveness. Gradually, things replace people as a source of pleasure and security. When the gift of belonging with is denied, the child learns that love means belongin to. To the degree we are arrested at this stage of development, the needy child will dominate our motivations. Other people and things (and there is fundamentally no difference) will be seen as existing solely for the purpose of "my" survival and satisfaction. "Mine" will become the most important word.

By Anonym 15 Sep

Melody Beattie

Detachment also involves accepting reality—the facts. It requires faith—in ourselves, in God, in other people, and in the natural order and destiny of things in this world. We believe in the rightness and appropriateness of each moment. We release our burdens and cares, and give ourselves the freedom to enjoy life in spite of our unsolved problems. We trust that all is well in spite of the conflicts. We trust that Someone greater than ourselves knows, has ordained, and cares about what is happening. We understand that this Someone can do much more to solve the problem than we can. So we try to stay out of His way and let Him do it. In time, we know that all is well because we see how the strangest (and sometimes most painful) things work out for the best and for the benefit of everyone.

By Anonym 18 Sep

Alexandra Kleeman

Tell me, is there someone in your life who's been sharing your life too closely? A friend or a loved one? Is there someone who's been taking up your time and not giving any of it back?