Best 17 quotes of Guy Winch on MyQuotes

But the way our fears work, if we don't own them and if we don't talk about them, our mind will find other ways of expressing them.

By having an additional agenda, we come across not as someone who is lonely, but as someone who is passionate about our hobby, or serious about our creative endeavors.

By setting out to give rather than get, we can focus on the person in need instead of ourselves, which in turn makes us feel less self-conscious, less insecure, and less vulnerable.

Certainly when we are in the throes of unrelenting or excessive guilt it is extremely difficult for us to enjoy our lives in any substantial way. Things that used to bring pleasure, joy, or excitement lose their appeal, not because we no longer enjoy them, but because we no longer permit ourselves to do so.

Empathy involves stepping into another person's shoes in order to gain an understanding of their emotional experience and then conveying our insights to them accordingly.

Higher self esteem is essentially an outcome of doing well in our lives and relationships.

In short, we should always ask ourselves how the other person's point of view might differ from our own. We should give weight to what we know about their priorities and preferences, to the history of the relationship between us, and to the context of the current situation.

Mindfulness involves a form of mediation in which we observe our feelings without judging them, in essence becoming anthropologists in our own minds.

Most of us only put in as much effort as a situation requires from us. If we can 'get away' with being less considerate or less reciprocal, and various other forms of 'getting without giving,' many of us will, not because we're evil, but simply because we can. If people demanded or expected more of us we would do more, but when they don't, we don't make the effort. This dynamic is true in practically every relationship we have. When our self-esteem is low and we expect very little of others, we are likely to get very little from them as well.

...research has repeatedly demonstrated the most effective way to treat psychological wounds failure inflicts is to find the positive lessons in what happened.

The effects of excessive or unresolved guilt impair our communication with the person we've harmed and limit our ability to relate to him or her in an authentic manner...

To have an impact on our self-esteem, feelings of personal empowerment must be supported by evidence of having actual influence in the various spheres of our lives, whether in our relationships, in our social or professional contexts, as citizens, or even as consumers.

Viewing slips as simple alerts that our willpower is fatigued and needs to recover (instead as indications of failure) will alliw us to acknowledge the lapse without getting further off track.

We often fail to consider accurate information that could potentially provide insight into another person's point of view (such as his or her facial expressions) but happily consider inaccurate information (such s broad stereotypes or gossip). For example, when evaluating preferences of people we perceive as similar to us, we tend to use ourselves as reference points. But when we perceive others as less similar, we are more likely to resort to stereotypes to assess their preferences. Once we consider how this dynamic might play out in gift-giving scenarios, it becomes clear why Grandpa ended up with twenty-three pairs of woolen socks for Christmas but without the Kindle he'd been hinting at since Thanksgiving.

When our self-esteem is low, we are far less likely to attribute slips in willpower to mental and emotional fatigue (which are the more likely culprits) and far more likely to assume they reflect fundamental character deficits.

When we fail in tasks in which our expectations for success are low, the psychological wounds failure inflicts are relatively minor. But when we possess the necessary skills and abilities to succeed and have expectations of doing so we are likely to feel much stronger pressure to perform well.

When we fail repeatedly or when we respond to failure in ways that set back our confidence, our self-esteem, and our chances of future success, we run the risk of allowing our emotional chest cold to turn into psychological pneumonia.