Best 35 quotes of Yong Kang Chan on MyQuotes

Anger tried to help me feel better about myself by pushing the blame onto someone else.

Blocking our feelings and pretending they aren’t there doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

Don’t change your self-criticism habit. Change your habitual reactions to self-criticism.

Empathy is my good friend, but she doesn’t allow me to be angry.

Escaping is running away from the truth, but disbelief is running towards the truth.

I began to understand that I could not depend on them to provide me with affirmation and approval. To improve my relationship with my parents, I needed to change. I needed to give myself permission and approval to do what I wanted to do. If my parents couldn’t love me the way I wanted them to love me, then I would have to learn how to love myself.

I had signed up for a lot of courses, but the biggest teacher is life. Perhaps we need to die multiple times in order to realize the true meaning of life. I’m grateful I died that day.

I mistakenly believed that I was my emotions.

Intuition has always been my greatest gift. It has provided me with many ideas for my creative work and saved me from a lot of trouble. It’s just that when I feel stressed and desperate, I forget this gift.

It’s difficult to see your thoughts when you are in your thoughts.

Low self-esteem is the belief that we are not good or worthy enough. It’s a self-perception. It doesn’t matter how successful or confident you are. You can be wealthy, beautiful, or well-liked by others and still don’t feel good about yourself. The way other people perceive you doesn’t affect your self-esteem. It’s how you perceive yourself that matters.

Maybe self-criticism isn’t the problem, but rather how we react to the criticism that is the problem.

Most of us have an inner parent that doesn’t take care of the inner child’s needs properly. They are more focused on the needs of the ego, such as pleasing other people in order to feel needed, or achieving success and getting recognition from others. This makes the inner parent happy for a short period of time, but it doesn’t last. There is always a feeling of not being fulfilled, no matter how much you achieve, because the inner child’s needs are not being met.

Nothingness is the most peaceful state of mind. There’s no unworthiness or inferiority. There’s only pure love.

Once we let go of our low self-esteem identity, the mind will have to start all over again, collecting new information about us and building a new identity.

Our reaction to self-criticism is more important than the self-criticism itself. Paying attention to our reactions is very important because the only thing we have control over is how we react.

People who have low self-esteem might not even know they have low self-esteem.

Perception of reality is not the same as reality. What we interpret is not the same as what we see.

Seeking love in the mind is like seeking love from the creator of your own drama. The mind cannot give us what we are looking for.

Someone can take away my job, but they can only take away my courage if I let them.

Telling a person who is depressed to have positive thoughts is the same as telling a sick person not to be sick. It doesn’t work.

The inner critic isn’t an enemy.

The more you don’t want to be like your parents, the more you will resemble them.

The truth is everything is impermanent. Nothing stays the same. Flowers wither. Our bodies grow old. Even our thoughts and emotions seem to dissolve over time. When we have a fixed concept of self, we lose ourselves in the past and don’t allow ourselves to just be who we are in the present.

Viewing yourself from the spirit’s perspective allows you to be detached from the drama in your mind. Then, you will realize your current self-perception is none other than a mental image created by your mind.

We established most of our self-beliefs during our childhood, but they were based on our limited understanding of the world around us. They are either flawed or have become outdated. We can’t take these beliefs at face value anymore.

We often behave like we are still children.

When we accept that our parents will never be the way we want them to be, we can stop seeking love and acceptance from them and our hearts will become lighter.

When you hate your parents or dislike certain traits that they have, you are actually giving them more attention and directing your energy toward them. They occupy your headspace, so how could it not affect your choices in life.

Without the mind, the idea of worthiness would not exist.

Words can’t harm you when they don’t mean anything to you.

You can’t change the outside without changing the inside.

You have no choice about what gets poured into your cup, but you have a choice as to what you accept and believe.

Your inner child is waiting for a genuine, heartfelt apology.

Your pain needs to be recognized and acknowledged. It needs to be acknowledged and then released. Avoiding pain is the same as denying it.