Best 38 quotes in «self criticism quotes» category

Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.

Our reaction to self-criticism is more important than the self-criticism itself. Paying attention to our reactions is very important because the only thing we have control over is how we react.

Self-criticism, on the other hand, is anathema to self-compassion. Once we learn to stop judging ourselves, we can look upon our lesser talents with compassion.

Şimdi artık biliyorum ki, bütün yaşantımız içinde ancak bir kaç kişiye böyle hak tanırız. Onu şımartır, yüz verir, alttan alır ve hatta ona teslim bile oluruz. O da bunu, zaten taa en başından bilmektedir. Eğer çok şanslı değilseniz, karşınızdaki şımarır, ipin ucunu kaçırır. Bİn pişman olur, incinir, düşkırıklıklarıyla yaralanır ve acı çekersiniz sonunda. Bazen, çok ender de olsa şanslısınızdır ve bir mucize yaşarsınız. Çünkü, karşınıza dilinize akraba biri çıkmıştır. ( Tanrım mucizeleri ne çok seviyoruz böyle! ) O sırada kaç yaşında olduğunuzun kesinlikle bir önemi yoktur. (Hayır yoktur!) Ve ben şanslıydım!

The inner critic isn’t an enemy.

The only way to reduce ugliness in the world is to reduce it in yourself,

The search to know has always been characterized by the need to doubt, the need to be critical, including the need to be self-critical.

Put down everything that comes into your head and then you're a writer. But an author is one who can judge his own stuff's worth, without pity, and destroy most of it." (Casual Chance, 1964)

Self-criticism and negative thoughts about yourself will attract people who reflect this back to you, showing critical behavior and can abuse you physically.

Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don't belong. You will always find it because you've made that your mission. Stop scouring people's faces for evidence that you're not enough. You will always find it because you've made that your goal. True belonging and self-worth are not goods; we don't negotiate their value with the world. The truth about who we are lives in our hearts. Our call to courage is to protect our wild heart against constant evaluation, especially our own. No one belongs here more than you.

The great thing about making yourself the villain is nobody’s likely to contradict you.

There is no solution for Europe other than deepening the democratic values it invented. It does not need a geographical extension, absurdly drawn out to the ends of the Earth; what it needs is an intensification of its soul, a condensation of its strengths. It is one of the rare places on this planet where something absolutely unprecedented is happening, without its people even knowing it, so much do they take miracles for granted. Beyond imprecation and apology, we have to express our delighted amazement that we live on this continent and not another. Europe, the planet's moral compass, has sobered up after the intoxication of conquest and has acquired a sense of the fragility of human affairs. It has to rediscover its civilizing capabilities, not recover its taste for blood and carnage, chiefly for spiritual advances. But the spirit of penitence must not smother the spirit of resistance. Europe must cherish freedom as its most precious possession and teach it to schoolchildren. It must also celebrate the beauty of discord and divest itself of its sick allergy to confrontation, not be afraid to point out the enemy, and combine firmness with regard to governments and generosity with regard to peoples. In short, it must simply reconnect with the subversive richness of its ideas and the vitality of its founding principles. Naturally, we will continue to speak the double language of fidelity and rupture, to oscillate between being a prosecutor and a defense lawyer. That is our mental hygiene: we are forced to be both the knife and the wound, the blade that cuts and the hand that heals. The first duty of a democracy is not to ruminate on old evils, it is to relentlessly denounce its present crimes and failures. This requires reciprocity, with everyone applying the same rule. We must have done with the blackmail of culpability, cease to sacrifice ourselves to our persecutors. A policy of friendship cannot be founded on the false principle: we take the opprobrium, you take the forgiveness. Once we have recognized any faults we have, then the prosecution must turn against the accusers and subject them to constant criticism as well. Let us cease to confuse the necessary evaluation of ourselves with moralizing masochism. There comes a time when remorse becomes a second offence that adds to the first without cancelling it. Let us inject in others a poison that has long gnawed away at us: shame. A little guilty conscience in Tehran, Riyadh, Karachi, Moscow, Beijing, Havana, Caracas, Algiers, Damascus, Yangon, Harare, and Khartoum, to mention them alone, would do these governments, and especially their people, a lot of good. The fines gift Europe could give the world would be to offer it the spirit of critical examination that it has conceived and that has saved it from so many perils. It is a poisoned gift, but one that is indispensable for the survival of humanity.

We dedicate most of the time worrying about our deficiencies and self-criticism instead of concentrating on our goals and believing in our destination

You've been criticising yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.

Don’t change your self-criticism habit. Change your habitual reactions to self-criticism.

Don't panic. Midway through writing a novel, I have regularly experienced moments of bowel-curdling terror, as I contemplate the drivel on the screen before me and see beyond it, in quick succession, the derisive reviews, the friends' embarrassment, the failing career, the dwindling income, the repossessed house, the divorce . . . Working doggedly on through crises like these, however, has always got me there in the end. Leaving the desk for a while can help. Talking the problem through can help me recall what I was trying to achieve before I got stuck. Going for a long walk almost always gets me thinking about my manuscript in a slightly new way. And if all else fails, there's prayer. St Francis de Sales, the patron saint of writers, has often helped me out in a crisis. If you want to spread your net more widely, you could try appealing to Calliope, the muse of epic poetry, too.

Easing back in her seat, Grace watched the children in the playground opposite, coats off, faces flushed, laughing hysterically with pleasure. They were so vividly alive, completely immersed in the game. She tried to recall a time when she'd been that way and realized she couldn't remember when that had been. She'd lost the knack of forgetting herself. Instead she seemed to look down on herself throughout the day, scrutinizing, judging; finding herself wanting more.

You can't understand human motivation. You can only understand your damned machines because you're a machine yourself, with skin on.

Self-criticism sessions were held, but these produced more criticism than could usefully be absorbed or accomodated.

Before thinking about what you are going to say, think about what I am saying.

Flaws. We all have them. BUT, they are all about perception. What I consider as a flaw may not be what someone else considers as a flaw. To me, a flaws is an imperfection or a fault in MY eyes. I consider my flaws to be things that I do not like about myself and things that I would like to change.

Genius is not that you are smarter than everyone else. It is that you are ready to receive the inspiration.

He found his voice in the silences, where he could sing as loud and as long as he wanted with no one to complain of it.

I am continuously struck by how frequently the various thought processes of the inner critic trigger overwhelming emotional flashbacks. This is because the PTSD-derived inner critic weds shame and self-hate about imperfection to fear of abandonment, and mercilessly drive the psyche with the entwined serpents of perfectionism and endangerment. Recovering individuals must learn to recognize, confront and disidentify from the many inner critic processes that tumble them back in emotional time to the awful feelings of overwhelming fear, self-hate, hopelessness and self-disgust that were part and parcel of their original childhood abandonment.

If you develop self-criticism, it won't be that much harder to receive the criticism of others.

Fear of boredom is the most scathing self-criticism.

Home is the place I can live with myself, without hating myself.

I feel like oversized trousers on sale, not even made of good material, that no one wants to buy. They just hang in there hoping that someone someday will compromise for their low cost.

Inside Critics The critical voices in our own heads are far more vicious than what we might hear from the outside. Our "inside critics" have intimate knowledge of us and can zero in on our weakest spots. You might be told by the critics that you're too fat, too old, too young, not intelligent enough, a quitter, not logical, prone to try too many things... It's all balderdash! Some elements of these may be true, and it's completely up to you how they affect you. Inside critics are really just trying to protect you. You can: Learn to dialogue with them. Give them new jobs. Turn them into allies. You can also dismantle/exterminate them.

I'm not saying the plot doesn't have holes.

In this world and the hereafter, we should not be afraid of no one but ourselves.

Kissinger would probably be outraged even if he reread his own memoirs, on the grounds that they are not favorable enough.

It’s difficult to see your thoughts when you are in your thoughts.

Listening to criticisms – and being self-critical – has been and remains central to the survival, growth, expansion, relevance, and applicability of feminism

Listening to criticisms – and being self-critical – has been and remains central to the survival, growth, and expansion of feminism.

Maybe self-criticism isn’t the problem, but rather how we react to the criticism that is the problem.

Mindfulness helps us see the addictive aspect of self-criticism— a repetitive cycle of flaying ourselves again and again, feeling the pain anew.

In the inner courtroom of my mind, mine is the only judgment that counts.