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Overdone lipstick is a deterrent to men. It rubs off easily onto their skin and the edges of their shirts, so it discourages them from kissing, touching, and coming closer to you, which is what they really want to do!

People compose poetry, novels, sitcoms - for love.

People have been looking for love potions since hunter-gatherer societies.

People have often asked me whether what I know about love has spoiled it for me. And I just simply say, 'Hardly.' You can know every single ingredient in a piece of chocolate cake, and then when you sit down and eat that cake, you can still feel that joy.

People live for love. They kill for love. They die for love. They have songs, poems, novels, sculptures, paintings, myths, legends. It's one of the most powerful brain systems on Earth for both great joy and great sorrow.

Psychologists maintain that the dizzy feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to-at best-three years

Real competition can drive up testosterone, which boosts libido.

Romantic love is an obsession. It possesses you. You lose your sense of self. You can’t stop thinking about another human being.

Research shows that couples who have a lot of similarities, including intellectual compatibility, end up staying together.

Romantic love is an addiction.

Romantic love is an addiction: a perfectly wonderful addiction when it's going well, and a perfectly horrible addiction when it's going poorly.

Romantic love is not an emotion. ... It's a drive. It comes from the motor of the mind, the wanting part of the mind, the craving part of the mind.

Romantic love is one of the most addictive substances on Earth.

Saliva has testosterone and estrogen. When you kiss, you're having a chemical experience.

Scientists know that women gravitate to men who have a different immune system from theirs.

Sometimes we fall in love with somebody who will probably never love us, for reasons having nothing to do with us but with their own mindset, their chemistry.

That "ol' black magic" is a fickle force. The chemistry of romantic love can trigger the chemistry of sexual desire and the fuel of sexual desire can trigger the fuel of romance. This is why it is dangerous to copulate with someone with whom you don't wish to become involved. Although you intend to have casual sex, you might just fall in love.

The brain was not built to walk into a bar, where you know nobody, and start a conversation. That's not the way humanity has courted.

The Great Depression of the 1930s saw more American unmarried women working from nine to five, mostly in repetitive, boring, subordinate, dead-end jobs. But the number of working women doubled between 1870 and 1940. During World War II it doubled once again.

The human brain is built to compare; it's Darwinian to consider an alternative when one presents itself.

The Internet lets women use words, which is their natural tool. Little girls speak in more complex, grammatical sentences than little boys do, and women never lose that superiority in verbal ability.

The main characteristics of romantic love are craving: an intense craving to be with a particular person, not just sexually, but emotionally.

There are cognitive processes and limbic reactions associated with basic emotions. And you can change brain chemistry, but you're still not going to change memories and experiences in a human being.

The reason you take antidepressants is to feel calm. And romantic love is not calm -it's elation, it's mood swings, and you're killing all that when you take the drug.

There exists no culture in which adultery is unknown, no cultural device or code that extinguishes philandering.

There is more and more data indicating that there is a biological basis to your political views.

There's all kinds of reasons that you fall in love with one person rather than another: Timing is important. Proximity is important. Mystery is important. You fall in love with somebody who's somewhat mysterious, in part because mystery elevates dopamine in the brain, probably pushes you over that threshold to fall in love.

There's a lot of talk about the positive aspects of love. We as a society downplay the danger, the anxiety, and the disappointment. We romanticize romance.

There's biology in everything, even when you're feeling spiritual.

Throughout evolution, ostracism was death indeed.

Today, American women bear an average of 2.2 children that live to adulthood. Across most of Europe, women bear even fewer young.

Today, most women are surrounded by ingenious gadgets. They don't grow the peas or raise the chicken that they serve for dinner; instead they hunt and gather in the grocery store. They go through catalogs or department stores to buy clothes instead of shearing sheep, carding wool, and weaving cloth for skirts and coats and blankets.

Touch is the mother of the senses. Not only are women more sensitive when they touch, but they're also more sensitive to being touched.

We're apt to fall in love with those who are mysterious and challenging to us.

Until recently, we regarded love as supernatural. We were willing to study the brain chemistry of fear and depression and anger but not love.

We all have restlessness in long-term relationships.

We are lied to by our love songs.

We evolved in a tropical climate where the smells of plants and flowers were all around us. We spent a lot of time in the trees with a lot of sunlight and no clothes.

We're not very dangerous animals; we don't have a horn like a rhino or quills like a porcupine.

We spend our lives trying to get along with people so we can keep our jobs, keep our marriages together, so that we can raise our kids properly.

We still have community, but we don't seem to have local community. Even in a small town where you know your neighbors and your mother's down the street, they're not in arm's length.

What our grandmothers told us about playing hard to get is true. The whole point of the game is to impress and capture. It's not about honesty. Many men and women, when they're playing the courtship game, deceive so they can win. Novelty, excitement and danger drive up dopamine in the brain. And both sexes brag.

When people tell you to walk a certain way, it's like not thinking of a purple tomato. You can't not do it.

When you fight, anger drives up testosterone in both men and women.

When you look at the brain regions associated with picking up data from the body, a huge amount of the brain is devoted to picking up information from the lips and tongue.

When you massage someone, the levels of oxytocin go up in the brain, and oxytocin is one of the chemicals that drives attachment.

When you're in the throes of this romantic love, it's overwhelming - you're out of control, you're irrational, you're going to the gym at 6 A.M. every day - Why? Because she's there.

Why do we feel jealousy? Therapists often regard the demon as a scar of childhood trauma or a symptom of a psychological problem. And it's true that people who feel inadequate, insecure, or overly dependent tend to be more jealous than others.

Women apparently are quite drawn to men who have differences rather than similarities in their histocompatibility system. They pick it up by smell, and they can pick it up from kissing.

Women are better at reading body language everywhere in the world. As a matter of fact, it's associated with the female hormone estrogen. Women are better at figuring out of tone of voice, reading your face and posture and gesture.