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Remaining absolutely non-acquisitive (aparigrahi) amidst all possessions is the ultimate ‘test examination’.

Research on organised abuse emphasises the diversity of organised abuse cases, and the ways in which serious forms of child maltreatment cluster in the lives of children subject to organised victimisation (eg Bibby 1996b, Itziti 1997, Kelly and Regan 2000). Most attempts to examine organised abuse have been undertaken by therapists and social workers who have focused primarily on the role of psychological processes in the organised victimisation of children and adults. Dissociation, amnesia and attachment, in particular, have been identified as important factors that compel victims to obey their abusers whilst inhibiting them from disclosing their abuse or seeking help (see Epstein et al. 2011, Sachs and Galton 2008). Therapists and social workers have surmised that these psychological effects are purposively induced by perpetrators of organised abuse through the use of sadistic and ritualistic abuse. In this literature, perpetrators are characterised either as dissociated automatons mindlessly perpetuating the abuse that they, too, were subjected to as children, or else as cruel and manipulative criminals with expert foreknowledge of the psychological consequences of their abuses. The therapist is positioned in this discourse at the very heart of the solution to organised abuse, wielding their expertise in a struggle against the coercive strategies of the perpetrators. Whilst it cannot be denied that abusive groups undertake calculated strategies designed to terrorise children into silence and obedience, the emphasis of this literature on psychological factors in explaining organised abuse has overlooked the social contexts of such abuse and the significance of abuse and violence as social practices.

Renunciation and saiyam are two different things. Renunciation is where one gives up all marital ties, parental ties, financial ties and material possessions. What is saiyam? When anger, pride, deceit, greed and attachment-abhorence are under control, then it is considered as saiyam.

Secure attachment has been linked to a child's ability to successfully recover and prove resilient in the presence of a traumatic event.

Remember, thoughts are only thoughts. You can choose to believe them or to not believe them. You can choose to change your perspective. You decide what you give power to. Choose thoughts that are helpful rather than harmful.

Saiyam parinaam (a resultant state free of anger-pride-deceit-greed and attachment-abhorrence) is not an activity of the Self. It is an intermediate state. The activity of the Self happen when the independent [original] Self is Seen.

SELFHOOD AND DISSOCIATION The patient with DID or dissociative disorder not otherwise specified (DDNOS) has used their capacity to psychologically remove themselves from repetitive and inescapable traumas in order to survive that which could easily lead to suicide or psychosis, and in order to eke some growth in what is an unsafe, frequently contradictory and emotionally barren environment. For a child dependent on a caregiver who also abuses her, the only way to maintain the attachment is to block information about the abuse from the mental mechanisms that control attachment and attachment behaviour.10 Thus, childhood abuse is more likely to be forgotten or otherwise made inaccessible if the abuse is perpetuated by a parent or other trusted caregiver. In the dissociative individual, ‘there is no uniting self which can remember to forget’. Rather than use repression to avoid traumatizing memories, he/she resorts to alterations in the self ‘as a central and coherent organization of experience. . . DID involves not just an alteration in content but, crucially, a change in the very structure of consciousness and the self’ (p. 187).29 There may be multiple representations of the self and of others. Middleton, Warwick. "Owning the past, claiming the present: perspectives on the treatment of dissociative patients." Australasian Psychiatry 13.1 (2005): 40-49.

Space, like time, engenders forgetfulness; but it does so by setting us bodily free from our surroundings and giving us back our primitive, unattached state ... Time, we say, is Lethe; but change of air is a similar draught, and, if it works less thoroughly, does so more quickly.

Stop falling for those who won't raise you up in the future.

Strangers were a fairytale full of possibilities not yet corrupted by reality while caregivers were the reality – and everything that couldn't be counted upon.

Swish floral curtain with laces dancing out on air but is tied to its past interwoven with numerous rings of attachments.

Taming attachment,does not mean becoming cold and disinterested. On the contrary, it means learning to have a composed control over our mind through understanding

That is to say, attachments to signs of accomplishment (drod rtags) and circumstantial effects are precisely what are called Negative Forces [demons].

The best, highest love comes without attachment or expectation.

The capacity to form attachments on equal terms is considered evidence of emotional maturity. It is the absence of this capacity which is pathological. Whether there may be other criteria of emotional maturity, like the capacity to be alone, is seldom taken into account.

The capacity for dissociation enables the young child to exercise their innate life-sustaining need for attachment in spite of the fact that principal attachment figures are also principal abusers.

The greatest challenge of parenting is in the inner work it requires: the strength and confidence in believing that we are not in control of, but the answer for our children.

Theirs was a tug-of-war and neither could let go. Both felt the burn and still wouldn't let go. Some might call it a game for neither could admit defeat.

... sexual abuse by the mother is considered to he one of the most traumatic forms of abuse. In some ways it's the ultimate betrayal.

The Lord says that abhorrence is beneficial. Love-attachment [Prem-raag] will never leave. The entire world is trapped in the suffering due to love-attachment (prem-parishaha). Just say your greetings from afar and become free.

The key to finding a mate who can fulfill those needs is to first fully acknowledge your need for intimacy, availability, and security in a relationship - and to believe that they are legitimate. They aren't good or bad, they are simply your needs. Don't let people make you feel guilty for acting "needy" or dependent." Don't be ashamed of feeling incomplete when you're not in a relationship, or for wanting to be close to your partner and to depend on him.

The possessions themselves were not the problem, it was my relationship with possessing.

The foundation of sansar (worldly life) is made up of attachment and abhorrence, and the foundation of Gnan (knowledge of the Self) is made up of Vitaraagata (total absence of attachment and abhorrence)!

The marriage and all other worldly occasions have to be dealt with. You do it and so do ‘I’. You deal with them by getting engrossed in them and ‘I’ deal with them by remaining separate. Only the location (involvement) has to be changed.

The mind doesn’t harass you; your attachment-abhorrence harasses you!

The mind, speech, and body are effective, so the effect that one experiences, he believes as ‘this effect is mine’. This creates attachment-abhorrence and thus creates a karmic cause. But if one knows that the effect is ‘not mine’, then he will not have any attachment or abhorrence and consequently will not create karmic causes.

The one who does not have even a trace of sexual thoughts is referred to as a saiyam parinaami (one who is free of anger-pride-deceit-greed, attachment-abhorrence).

The primary driver to pathological dissociation is attachment disorganization in early life: when that is followed by severe and repeated trauma, then a major disorder of structural dissociation is created (Lyons-Ruth, Dutra, Schuder, & Bianchi, 2006).

There is no means other than Vitaraag Vignan (Science that leads to the absolute state free of attachment-abhorrence) that can give Moksha (ultimate liberation). Other methods will cause bondage and will only help to pass the time. Through Gnani Purush (Enlightened One), one is able to attain the Eternal thing (Soul).

The reality of the world is the result of our attachment. It is the reality of the self which we transfer into things. It has nothing to do with independent reality. That is only perceptible through total detachment. Should only one thread remain, there is still attachment.

There is no means other than vitrag-science (science that frees us from all attachments) that will give Final-Liberation [Moksha]. Other means [methods, instruments] will cause bondage; they only help to pass the time; [whereas] means to attain the Eternal Thing (experience of Pure Soul) can be attained from the ‘Gnani Purush’ (the enlightened one).

The Root Cause of Our Problems is The Attachment To Possessions and #Desire for more. #KnowThyself

The Soul is neither a Jain nor a Vaishnav. The Soul is Vitarag (free from attachment). This is the religion of the Vitarag (the enlightened ones).

The Soul is neither a Jain nor a Vaishnav. The Soul is Vitarag (free from attachment and abhorrence). This is the religion of the Vitarag (the enlightened ones).

There is no gap between the ignorant and the wise. A foolish person is a wise person; a wise person is a foolish person.

There is no way out other than ‘staying at the Gnani’s feet’ (being surrendered to the Enlightened one). The vision of the entire world is of infinite ‘mohaniya’ (delusional attachment), and no one can escape from it.

There should not be attachment to what is liked and there should be no abhorrence to what is disliked. Like and dislike are mind’s functions; it is not ‘Our’ (Self) function.

The whole world is indeed trapped by misery. What is the misery about? Due to ignorance of one’s own Real Self (agnanta). Due to ignorance of one’s own Real Self (agnanta), attachment-abhorrence (raag-dwesh) keeps on occuring, which leads to this misery. Only through Gnan [Knowledge of the Real Self] can one prevail in a misery-free state. There is no other solution at all.

The whole worldly life is of the non-Self complex (pudgal). But to have attachment-abhorrence in that non-Self complex, is called karmic bondage, and not to have attachment-abhorrence in that non-Self complex, is called liberation.

The world has not seen the equanimity (sambhaav) of the Gnanis (enlightened Ones) at all. In fact, the Gnani has a state of absolute detachment (vitaraagata) in attachment (raag). The people of the world look for vitaraagata in vitaraagata. Actually, one should have vitaraagata in raag.

There is no more destructive force in human affairs -- not greed, not hatred -- than the desire to have been right. Non-attachment to possessions is trivial when compared with non-attachment to opinions.

Too many Americans are spurred to achieve, rather than to attach.

The worldly vision is filled with infinite infatuations and attachments and no one can escape from it; [hence] there is no alternative other than staying in Gnani’s feet [surrendering to the enlightened one is the only alternative].

They say that people are innately afraid of those who need them, they say that people are afraid of "clingy-ness", afraid of attachment, afraid of being needed by another. But I beg to disagree. I believe that people, when looking at someone who is needy of them, see themselves and see their own fears and they go away because they can't handle those fears; it's their own neediness that they're afraid of! They're afraid to want and to need, because they're afraid of loss and of losing, so when they see these things in another, that's when they run away. Nobody is actually running away from other people; everybody is really running away from themselves!

This world is a museum. In a museum you have to see and know; you can eat and drink but you cannot take anything out of it. Do not get attached. Enjoy everything, but if you take anything away from it, you will have to come back to the ‘museum’ (this world).

Those who have an attachment to the tried and true, and the way things are, are threatened by these impulses and the change they initiate. Which is the very reason why you must cultivate curiosity, courage, and creativity.

Throughout history, the most brutal cultures have always been distinguished by maternal-infant separation.

To be free of insistence [free of forcing one's own opinion] is the path of Vitragta [attachment-free state, the enlightened one]. Quit insisting at all places. To even insist on the truth, God has considered it as ignorance. There is no insistence in ‘Us’ whatsoever!

To lose awareness of what is helpful or harmful in the worldly life is moh (Illusory vision & attachment).

Un-attachment (as opposed to detachment) is the acceptance that each and every person is responsible for his or her own reality, and that our joy, peace, security, and sense of love is not dependent on any other person or situation. We are each responsible for our own emotional well being.