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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
A family stitched together with love seldom unravels.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Although Freud said happiness is composed of love and work, reality often forces us to choose love or work.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
America is a nation fundamentally ambivalent about its children, often afraid of its children, and frequently punitive toward its children.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Apathy is the self-defense of the powerless.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
As the mother of a son, I do not accept that alienation from me is necessary for his discovery of himself. As a woman, I will not cooperate in demeaning womanly things so that he can be proud to be a man. I like to think the women in my son's future are counting on me.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
A toy has no gender and no idea of whether a girl or boy is playing with it.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Before devising any blueprint that includes the assumption of Having It All, we need to ask ... Why do we need Everything?
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Boys don't make passes at female smart asses.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Children's liberation is the next item on our civil rights shopping list.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Compared to other parents, remarried parents seem more desirous of their child's approval, more alert to the child's emotional state, and more sensitive in their parent-child relations. Perhaps this is the result of heightened empathy for the child's suffering, perhaps it is a guilt reaction; in either case, it gives the child a potent weapon--the power to disrupt the new household and come between parent and the new spouse.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Control is a big issue when you're sick. It's the first thing you lose - other losses come later.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Friends can be said to "fall in like" with as profound a thud as romantic partners fall in love.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Friendships aren't perfect and yet they are very precious. For me, not expecting perfection all in one place was a great release.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Friends seem to be like aspirin; we don't really know why they make a sick person feel better, but they do.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
I didn't anticipate the primal quality of my pleasure, the raw physicality of it, the way my whole body leaps forward when I see my grandsons after a few days' absence.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
I feel about mothers the way I feel about dimples: because I do not have one myself, I notice everyone who does.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
If family violence teaches children that might makes right at home, how will we hope to cure the futile impulse to solve worldly conflicts with force?
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
I find it profoundly symbolic that I am appearing before a committee of fifteen men who will report to a legislative body of one hundred men because of a decision handed down by a court comprised of nine men--on an issue that affects millions of women.... I have the feeling that if men could get pregnant, we wouldn't be struggling for this legislation. If men could get pregnant, maternity benefits would be as sacrosanct as the G.I. Bill.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
If knowledge is power, clandestine knowledge is power squared; it can be withheld, exchanged, and leveraged.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
If the family were a boat, it would be a canoe that makes no progress unless everyone paddles.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
If the family were a fruit, it would be an orange, a circle of sections, held together but separable - each segment distinct.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
If the Richter scale could measure human calamities, the loss of a child would register a ten.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Illness is the proving ground of friendship.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
In the supposedly enlightened eighteenth and nineteenth centuries, parental indifference, child neglect, and raw cruelty appearedamong Europeans of all classes.... In mid-nineteenth- century France, families abandoned their children at the rate of thirty-three thousand a year.... It took sixty years after the criminalization of cruelty to animals for cruelty to children to be made punishable under English law.... Industrialized America added brutalizing child labor to the oppressions of the young.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
It angers me that sick people have to wait for everything and everybody - doctors, nurses, callbacks, lab results, prescriptions, medications, technicians, treatment rooms. If illness is the embodiment of powerlessness, which, believe me, is true, then waiting is its temporal incarnation.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
It's smart to be friends with one's sex partner but dumb to have sex with one's friends.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
I used to anticipate my childhood birthday parties as if each were an annual coronation. Like most kids, I loved sitting at the head of the table with a crown on my head.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Lifestyles and sex roles are passed from parents to children as inexorably as blue eyes or small feet.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Like many another romance, the romance of the family turns sour when the money runs out. If we really cared about families, we would not let 'born again' patriarchs send up moral abstractions as a smokescreen for the scandal of American family economics.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Like plowing, housework makes the ground ready for the germination of family life. The kids will not invite a teacher home if beer cans litter the living room. The family isn't likely to have breakfast together if somebody didn't remember to buy eggs, milk, or muffins. Housework maintains an orderly setting in which family life can flourish.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Mothers remember a child's first words, and quote them in tones usually reserved for Byron.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Much is made of the accelerating brutality of young people's crimes, but rarely does our concern for dangerous children translateinto concern for children in danger. We fail to make the connection between the use of force on children themselves, and violent antisocial behavior, or the connection between watching father batter mother and the child deducing a link between violence and masculinity.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
No labourer in the world is expected to work for room, board, and love -except the housewife.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Other than life experience, nothing left a deeper imprint on my formative self than the movies.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Over the years, I've found that I either live life or write about it. I can't seem to do both simultaneously - I have to do it sequentially. When I write incessantly, I lose touch with the issues and passions that fuel the work. But when I get too involved in organizations or movement endeavors, I almost forget that I'm a writer. It's a constant struggle to find a balance between these two worlds - the solitary writing life and the life of a social justice activist.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
The all American work ethic, destructive enough by itself, also packs a gender double standard that strip-mines the natural resources of both parents. It has taught us that as their earnings and success increase, men become "more manly," while women become "less feminine." This perverse cultural dynamic gives fathers an incentive to stay away from their families and kill themselves at work, while coercing mothers to limit their career commitment, which in turn limits their wages and shortchanges their families.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
The family endures because it offers the truth of mortality and immortality within the same group. The family endures because, better than the commune, kibbutz, or classroom, it seems to individualize and socialize its children, to make us feel at the same time unique and yet joined to all humanity, accepted as is and yet challenged to grow, loved unconditionally and yet propelled by greater expectations. Only in the family can so many extremes be reconciled and synthesized. Only in the family do we have a lifetime in which to do it.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
The politics of the family are the politics of a nation. Just as the authoritarian family is the authoritarian state in microcosm, the democratic family is the best training ground for life in a democracy.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
The risk for a woman who considers her helpless children her "job" is that the children's growth toward self-sufficiency may be experienced as a refutation of the mother's indispensability, and she may unconsciously sabotage their growth as a result.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
The ultra-right would have us believe that families are in trouble because of humanism, feminism, secular education, or sexual liberation, but the consensus of Americans is that what tears families apart is unemployment, inflation, and financial worries.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
To me, a person's identity is composed of both an 'I' and a 'we.' The 'I' finds itself in love, work, and pleasure, but it also locates itself within some meaningful group identity - a tribe, a community, a 'we.' America is too big and bland a tribe for most of us.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
We can remind the world that all the dead on both sides have not settled our differences, so now it is time for the living to renounce violence as a means of solving this conflict.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
We mothers are learning to mark our mothering success by our daughters' lengthening flight.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
We need old friends to help us grow old and new friends to help us stay young.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
What I often say to people who are quick to say I’m not a feminist is if you think you’re not a feminist, give it all back.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
When a family is free of abuse and oppression, it can be the place where we share our deepest secrets and stand the most exposed, a place where we learn to feel distinct without being better, - and sacrifice for others without losing ourselves.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
When men are oppressed, it's a tragedy. When women are oppressed, it's tradition.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
When the president of the United States flicks the switch to light up the Christmas tree on the White House lawn, that house ceases to be an American symbol; it becomes a Christian symbol.
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Why hope to live a long life if we're only going to fill it with self-absorption, body maintenance and image repair? When we die, do we want people to exclaim 'She looked ten years younger,' or do we want them to say 'She lived a great life'?
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By AnonymLetty Cottin Pogrebin
Work-family conflicts - the trade-offs of your money or your life, your job or your child - would not be forced upon women with such sanguine disregard if men experienced the same career stalls caused by the-buck-stops-here responsibility for children.
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