Best 160 quotes in «emotional intelligence quotes» category

Adolescence feeds on drama, it is most happy when living in extremis, and Ferguson was no less vulnerable to the lure of high emotion and extravagant unreason than any other boy his age, which meant the appeal of a girl like Anne-Marie was fuelled precisely by her unhappiness, and the greater the storms she engulfed him in, the more he wanted her.

IQ and technical skills are important, but emotional intelligence is the sine qua non of leadership.

Adaptability and change management requires strong emotional and social intelligence. It is a part of inside-out leadership.

All emotions give us valuable information, and trying to simply clear away problematic emotions equates to denying the wisdom of our emotional body.

After years of being taught that the way to deal with painful emotions is to get rid of them, it can take a lot of reschooling to learn to sit with them instead, finding out from those who feel them what they have learned by sleeping in the wilderness that those who sleep in comfortable houses may never know.

A lack of emotional engagement in the affair affirms higher credibility.

All emotional intelligence begins with awareness. When we fail to notice what we're feeling, our responses to that feeling will be habitual and automatic. But when we identify our emotions, we can consciously choose to act on them in healthy and intelligent ways.

All oppression starts with the experience of Lack. A lack of ideas, creativity, money, investors, health, friends, love, or kindness. Lack creates the emotional effect of Depression.

All of us struggle to realize something Patrice spent years telling me, as I took on one position or another: "It's not about you, dear." She often needed to remind me that, whatever people were feeling-happy, sad, frightened, or confused-it was unlikely it had anything to do with me. They had received a gift, or lost a friend, or gotten a medical test result, or couldn't understand why their love wasn't calling them back. It was all about their lives, their troubles, their hopes and dreams. Not mine. The nature of human existence makes it hard for us-or at least for me-to come to that understanding naturally. After all, I can only experience the world through me. That tempts all of us to believe everything we think, everything we hear, everything we see, is all about us. I think we all do this. But a leader constantly has to train him- or herself to think otherwise. This is an important insight for a leader, in two respects. First, it allows you to relax a bit, secure in the knowledge that you aren't that important. Second, knowing people aren't focused on you should drive you to try to imagine what they are focused on. I see this as the heart of emotional intelligence, the ability to imagine the feelings and perspective of another "me". Some seem to be born with a larger initial deposit of emotional intelligence, but all of us can develop it with practice.

Anger and shame are often vilified, and not without reason. But as challenging as they can be, when we refuse to feel them at all, things can get even worse.

Anger exists to move us into action, whenever action is needed to protect our boundaries, our sense of self, or whatever we consider to be “ours”.

All your thoughts, imagination, feelings, emotions and sensation are part of the mechanical process that can be understood, at the state of self-realization.

An emotion does not cause pain. Resistance or suppression of emotion causes pain.

Anger is a partnership of two forces in which one of the partners is silent. Anger is the present and accountable emotion while Shame is the silent partner, the thought that projects in the background. Shame is the belief in eternal lack of resolve, which creates violence.

Be glad for your emotions. You are able to function in the world because of them.

Anxiety is the aspect of our fear that looks to the future, anticipating potential problems and dangers.

As challenging as anxiety can be, it can also help us by showing us where we aren't prepared enough for the future, and motivating us to do something about it.

At first, his charisma made it addictive to be around him; but over time I recognized it was also a façade. There was a wounded boy inside of him. He had grown up without a dad, so it made sense to me that he sought constant validation. I found it endearing, humanizing; until he started to indulge that little boy. There were tantrums, there was acting out, there was his need to control things that he no business controlling, but he was still that boy, and I loved him. So I stayed thinking it would get better, and then one morning I woke up to one of life’s clarion calls. I deserved better than this. That night I said I was leaving.

Anxiety wants us to get organized and to be prepared. So if we want it to chill out, that's the first thing we should do.

A person who doesn’t understand flowers might tug on them to make them grow. A person who doesn’t speak the language of someplace might misread the locals’ sentiments and intentions. Yet you are already such a flower, and your inner locals—your emotions, your body, your thoughts—are already speaking to you. If you don’t learn the language of your experience, then how can you understand yourself? How can you help yourself?

As empaths, one of the quickest ways to completely losing our grounding in reality is by deferring our needs and wants in relationships.

Behind every trigger is a wound in our past.

Believe in what makes you Healthy, because everything else is just garbage.

Boundaries and sensitivity are directly connected.

Buddha is our inherent nature—our buddha nature—and what that means is that if you’re going to grow up fully, the way that it happens is that you begin to connect with the intelligence that you already have. It’s not like some intelligence that’s going to be transplanted into you. If you’re going to be fully mature, you will no longer be imprisoned in the childhood feeling that you always need to protect yourself or shield yourself because things are too harsh. If you’re going to be a grown-up—which I would define as being completely at home in your world no matter how difficult the situation—it’s because you will allow something that’s already in you to be nurtured. You allow it to grow, you allow it to come out, instead of all the time shielding it and protecting it and keeping it buried. Someone once told me, “When you feel afraid, that’s ‘fearful buddha.’” That could be applied to whatever you feel. Maybe anger is your thing. You just go out of control and you see red, and the next thing you know you’re yelling or throwing something or hitting someone. At that time, begin to accept the fact that that’s “enraged buddha.” If you feel jealous, that’s “jealous buddha.” If you have indigestion, that’s “buddha with heartburn.” If you’re happy, “happy buddha”; if bored, “bored buddha.” In other words, anything that you can experience or think is worthy of compassion; anything you could think or feel is worthy of appreciation.

Detachment is a tricky business. If we are seeking to access the innate wisdom in our emotions, detachment itself cannot be the goal… because in order to hear what our emotions have to say, we have to be willing to feel them.

By approaching all of our feelings as a compassionate witness and listening to what they are wanting to say, we become able to take action in a way that is informed by our emotions instead of automatically reacting from them.

By healing the parts of ourselves that are frozen in the past, we are able to bring them back into the present - and each time we do this we become less fragmented, and more whole.

Changing your mindset is a game changer.

Derived from the Greek word “em” (in) and “pathos” (feeling), the term “empath” refers to a person who is able to “feel into” the feelings of others.

Emotional healing requires more than simply changing how you feel. Your emotions are merely symptoms of the problem - not the problem itself. Even when they hurt.

Don't live the same day over and over again and call that a life. Life is about evolving mentally, spiritually, and emotionally.

Emotional intelligence is knowledge of the “Self,” understanding who we are, and employing this knowledge to exercise self-control in our relationships with other beings and the world. Only by knowing ourselves can we responsibly and efficiently manage our senses, thoughts, words and actions, and behave in a benevolent manner toward other beings and the world.

Emotional quotient is more important for one's success than the Intelligence quotient

Emotional versatility is the art of making peace with the entire emotional spectrum by honing your capacity to channel various feelings along creative and constructive lines. It is not about controlling or condemning your feelings. It's about conducting your feelings in a self-edifying way.

Emotions give us our ability to relate with each other, and are the source of our social intelligence.

Emotions influence every action we take. So the more we are aware of our feelings, the more we gain conscious control over our lives.

Emotional health is more important than a fit body. Unknowingly most of us focus on the latter hence the lack of inner-happiness, peace, love and fulfillment.

...emotional intelligence accounts for 80 percent of career success.

Emotions can get in the way or get you on the way

Emotions are essential part of human intelligence. Without emotional intelligence, AI is incomplete.

Emotional Intelligence can be learned. Try it on for the size always fits, needs no return, and never wears out.

Emotional intelligence does not mean merely "being nice". At strategic moment it may demand not "being nice", but rather, for example, bluntly confronting someone with an uncomfortable but consequential truth they've been avoiding.

Emotion has its place, but it must not interfere with taking the appropriate action.

Excuses are things like sausages stuffed with reason, in the skin of a lie.

Grief reveals the sacred, and reminds us of what truly matters.

Guard the doors of your temple, do not let anyone pollute it with their mess.

I can't’ and ‘I don't want to’ trigger the same results.

I feel therefore I am.

If you can rightly build your emotional intelligence and holistically develop yourself, people can hurt you but you won't be hurted.