Best 572 quotes in «child abuse quotes» category

While my sister and I were reminded we did not cause this pain, it was knowing that because we broke our silence about what had been done to us, our parents were hurting. That knowledge was hard on us.

While some accused and convicted child molesters have inappropriately influenced the media, the public, and many in the clinical and legal professions by claiming that traumatic amnesia does not occur in child sexual abuse, workers in the field of trauma psychology have accumulated solid empirical evidence over the past 100 years that it does occur and is common. Its existence and natural history are documented throughout the clinical literature. from: Traumatic amnesia: The evolution of our understanding from a clinical and legal perspective, Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity: The Journal of Treatment & Prevention, Volume 4, Issue 2, 1997

Whole night hanged with panic Sparking tears in those big wide eyes.

Who said 'please' that made you hate the word so much?" Andrew gazed at him in silence for a minute. "I did.

Why did I allow the abuse to continue? Even as a teenager? I didn’t. Something that had been plaguing me for years now made sense. It was like the answer to a terrible secret. The thing is, it wasn’t me in my bed, it was Shirley who lay the wondering if that man was going to come to her room, pull back the cover and push his penis into her waiting mouth it was Shirley. I remembered watching her, a skinny little thing with no breasts and a dark resentful expression. She was angry. She didn’t want this man in her room doing the things he did, but she didn’t know how to stop it. He didn’t beat her, he didn’t threaten her. He just looked at her with black hypnotic eyes and she lay back with her legs apart thinking about nothing at all. And where was I? I stood to one side, or hovered overhead just below the ceiling, or rode on a magic carpet. I held my breath and watched my father pushing up and down inside Shirley’s skinny body.

Why me” goes along to haunt many survivors even today. Why was I abused? Or Why was I not protected?

With no other choice, I'd submitted to the will of our prophet and had married my nineteen-year-old first cousin.

Without realizing it, I fought to keep my two worlds separated. Without ever knowing why, I made sure, whenever possible that nothing passed between the compartmentalization I had created between the day child and the night child. p26

With regards pedophilia I have always looked on it as that … pedophilia. I thought that one religion is no different to the other and I am now truthfully beginning to think that.

Work hard. "Suit yourself, then you'll know at least one person is pleased.

You alone caan create the change you seek. But how? By accepting things as they are, you allow yourself to make apt choices.

Working simultaneously, though seemingly without a conscience, was Dr. Ewen Cameron, whose base was a laboratory in Canada's McGill University, in Montreal. Since his death in 1967, the history of his work for both himself and the CIA has become known. He was interested in 'terminal' experiments and regularly received relatively small stipends (never more than $20,000) from the American CIA order to conduct his work. He explored electroshock in ways that offered such high risk of permanent brain damage that other researchers would not try them. He immersed subjects in sensory deprivation tanks for weeks at a time, though often claiming that they were immersed for only a matter of hours. He seemed to fancy himself a pure scientist, a man who would do anything to learn the outcome. The fact that some people died as a result of his research, while others went insane and still others, including the wife of a member of Canada's Parliament, had psychological problems for many years afterwards, was not a concern to the doctor or those who employed him. What mattered was that by the time Cheryl and Lynn Hersha were placed in the programme, the intelligence community had learned how to use electroshock techniques to control the mind. And so, like her sister, Lynn was strapped to a chair and wired for electric shock. The experience was different for Lynn, though the sexual component remained present to lesser degree...

Years ago I had realized I was blaming myself for it. People and doctors would tell me it wasn't my fault, but I couldn't “BELIEVE” it! Then I was talking to my friend Kieran and he explained to me in a way that I could PERCEIVE that I was not at fault. No one else could ever do that before, though many tried. Many, many people had tried to tell me it wasn't my fault, but I was convinced it was my fault because I was trying to cheer up my dad.

You are a survivor, at times you may not yet experience it, but the fact is that the worst and the cruelest part of your life is over.

You are fearless and daring as you walk through the flame as you raise your voice against the abuser.

You are definitely allowed to get upset or angry at your abuser, in fact, it’s more than better to be okay to be angry.

Yes, you deserved a better childhood, but as a survivor of abuse, you certainly deserve a blissful life.

You are full of empathy, kindness, and caring because you very well know the value of love.

You are powerful and fierce since you got out of all that was abominable.

You are not mad. You are recovering from trauma. Mad people abused you,

You are that hand to the child within you, lift yourself up, recognizing there is a victory in rising and nothing can stop you,

You are unique, special and exceptional as you have made it.

You can thrive on healing yourself and transform the power it has on you NOW

You can do it because this time you will do it for yourself, for your inner existence. For that child who was not able to stand up, because no hand of rescue came on.

You can handle the past and accomplish productivity in a less harmful way.

You don’t need to continue being a victim forever!

You have already accomplished more than you undoubtedly grasp just by going out this far.

You have the power to determine your future!

You have the right to be who you want to be and live the way you want to live.

You have to understand that having feelings and emotions is normal and that you don’t have to feel bad about them

You may never be able to keep up with someone else’s steps, either you may end up being far behind or far gone. Pick your path, not someone else’s

You know what happens to me!

You may have both good and bad days on your steep healing ride

You may experience waves of disbelief after each memory you retrieve. Whether as a phase or waves, the disbelief is usually accompanied by massive self-hate and guilt. ‘How can I even think such a thing? I must really be warped,’ you tell yourself.

You might think the Bangkok Hilton (the nickname of a fictional prison in Bangkok) was tough, well that was paradise compared to this place!

You must set boundaries to what you should do and what you allow others to do for you.

You may not be able to erase all the pain and damage of abuse, but healing is in your hands.

You may not succeed at first or not always, but you will definitely find ways that don’t contribute towards your journey and you will know not to take that road the next time.

Youngsters deserve no opinions.

You possess strength, resilience, tenacity, endurance, and willpower as you have lived through a cracking mess.

You pulled through it, you are not just a survivor, but a Victor.

You possess the ability to hold your life because you are the true proprietor of your own life, no one gets to decide for you.

You possess the right to celebrate your victory, your healing, your recovery.

You're capable of making your own decisions.

You're a survivor because everyday you make a choice not to be governed by their harsh words or actions. No one has the right to take away your happiness.

You’re meant to have control over yourself to make your decisions only to live a good life.

Your own story matters. It’s either a victor’s journey or a victim’s lament. The decision is in your hands. Exceptional

You're never too old or too damaged to make a difference. Nancy Walker

Your own story matters. It's either a victor's journey or victim's lament. The decision is in your hands.

.....you will examine yourself as a precious, loved, exceptional and uniquely crafted for a design and plan beyond your intellect.