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They say that people are innately afraid of those who need them, they say that people are afraid of "clingy-ness", afraid of attachment, afraid of being needed by another. But I beg to disagree. I believe that people, when looking at someone who is needy of them, see themselves and see their own fears and they go away because they can't handle those fears; it's their own neediness that they're afraid of! They're afraid to want and to need, because they're afraid of loss and of losing, so when they see these things in another, that's when they run away. Nobody is actually running away from other people; everybody is really running away from themselves!

This world is a museum. In a museum you have to see and know; you can eat and drink but you cannot take anything out of it. Do not get attached. Enjoy everything, but if you take anything away from it, you will have to come back to the ‘museum’ (this world).

Those who have an attachment to the tried and true, and the way things are, are threatened by these impulses and the change they initiate. Which is the very reason why you must cultivate curiosity, courage, and creativity.

Throughout history, the most brutal cultures have always been distinguished by maternal-infant separation.

To be free of insistence [free of forcing one's own opinion] is the path of Vitragta [attachment-free state, the enlightened one]. Quit insisting at all places. To even insist on the truth, God has considered it as ignorance. There is no insistence in ‘Us’ whatsoever!

To lose awareness of what is helpful or harmful in the worldly life is moh (Illusory vision & attachment).

Too many Americans are spurred to achieve, rather than to attach.

We will martyr ourselves, suffering under the weight of a non-reciprocal relationship until some part of us bursts in protest. Suddenly, we lose our mind, and allowing ourselves to heap all manner of nastiness, name calling, patronizing, death threats on the “deserving” jerk who has it coming after all we do for him/her! As the final insult rings across the room and we regain consciousness, we are horrified by what has come out of our mouth. After all, we LOVE these people, and we quickly move into anxious terror that this time we have gone too far . . . this time we crossed the line and they will leave us. So, we hunker back down and the martyrdom begins again. It’s a terrible cycle.

Try not to seek after the true Only cease to cherish opinions. (172)

Un-attachment (as opposed to detachment) is the acceptance that each and every person is responsible for his or her own reality, and that our joy, peace, security, and sense of love is not dependent on any other person or situation. We are each responsible for our own emotional well being.

We commonly confuse love with the strong emotions most often associated with it, such as joy, attachment, lust, infatuation, pleasure, pain, fear, and hope, to name a few. But, love is not a feeling; love itself is an action. There are countless emotions and beliefs that can cause us to love. Love is the willing giving of self to another living being. Love is giving the life, time, energy, and resources that we would normally give or use for our self to someone else. Love is an action that enhances the well-being of another living being.

We get attached to people, a job, material things and a certain state of being. And, when something around us changes we suffer. Release the need to control people, release the believe there is only one job you can do, release the need to accumulate material things, welcome the unknown and set yourself free.

We should understand the mother and child as a mutually responsive dyad. They are a symbiotic unit that make each other healthier and happier in mutual responsiveness. This expands to other caregivers too. -Darcia Narvaez

What attachments can you let go of to thrive more and stress less? What commitments can you make that will help you to fly higher in an endeavor that matters?

What do the vitarags [the enlightened one] say? This world will keep on running, You do not interfere with anything in it. If you want to attain ultimate liberation (moksha) then you will have maintain a state of vitaragta (state free of attachment).

Tully starts in again. 'See, the hidden value can go way deeper than sentimental attachment. Sometimes you feel it down to your soul. Like maybe you're the one person who appreciates a work of art that everybody else hates. [...] This thing you treasure, this thing nobody else wants, could also be what you'd call organic. It could be alive. [...] That's what falling in love is, isn't it? Discovering the hidden value in someone.

Until the ignorance of the Self does not move away, moha (illusory attachment) will not leave.

We are all born same, we are completely cute, innocent, sweet, and we need that reflection of ourselves as little human beings to live, and I was not receiving that from my mother but there was a caretaker who did give me that.

We are taught to be free from all vices of life. No greed, anger, lust, and attachment with any mundane things.

We should not allow ourselves to be deceived by our outward show of ‘civilized’ manners and ‘cultured’ social behavior into believing that self-concern, desirous attachment, aversion, and indifference are steadily losing their hold over us.

What cannot be communicated to the [m]other cannot be communicated to the self.

Whatever work you do in this world; the work itself has no value. If there is attachment-abhorrence behind that work, then only you are responsible for the next life. You are not responsible if attachment-abhorrence don’t occur.

What is attraction (akarshan) in this world? It is open fire and one should be aware of it. Attraction is the open fire. The root of illusory attachment (moha) is indeed attraction.

What is considered Sheel? It is when one does not respond to anger with anger, does not respond to pride with pride, does not respond with attachment (raag) towards people with attachment. That is considered Sheel (the highest state of conduct in worldly interaction).

What is attraction in this world? It is open fire; one should stay cautious there. Attraction is indeed the root of moha (illusory attachment).

What is parigraha (acquisitiveness)? It is not really a graha (stars). If your vision is worldly, then parigraha (owning things other than the self) will latch on to you. If your vision is of the Self (Soul), then it will not latch on.

What is the definition of ‘remaining untouched in the worldly life’? It means that one finds pleasure upon seeing something nice, but he is not to stuck there; he should move on. Then a cactus will appeal to him and a rose will appeal to him. But the world gets stuck there. Getting stuck itself is the pain!

When attachment does not occur when someone gives flowers and no abhorrence occurs when someone throws stones; that is considered equanimity.

When a thing becomes indispensable it's time to give it up.

When attachment increases too much, dislike will arise.

When faced with contrast, take nothing personally and don’t try to defend yourself. Defending one’s self is a vibrational relative of guilt. People will think what they like; do not feed fuel to the fire by reacting. Simply ask questions for clarity and in response say ‘Is that so?’ Take responsibility for the energy you brought to the situation, acknowledge the illusions without attachment, and move forward. Other people’s opinions are none of your business. Remember that each person is on their own unique path, and the mirror of contrast you hold up to them may be exactly what is necessary for their conscious growth at that time.

Where do you see conflict in this world? Only where there is infatuation (attachment).

When you love someone, you end up caring about each and every person they love. When you hate someone, you end up caring about every single person who hates them.

When you're attached to something you give it an importance it doesn't have.

When you're attached to something, whether through love or hate, you give it an importance it doesn't have.

Where the attachment and abhorrence does not occur is cosidered to be the path of moksha (ultimate liberation).

When I consider the men (like my father) I have treated in psychotherapy, I recognize the challenge I face as a counselor. These men are in counseling due to an insistent wife, troubled child or their own addiction. They suffer a lack of connection with the people they say they love most. Chronically accused of being over controlling or emotionally absent, they feel at sea when their wives and children claim to be lonely in their presence. How can these people feel “un-loved” when (from his perspective) he has dedicated his life to their welfare? Some of these men will express their lack of vitality and emotional engagement though endless service. They are hyperaware of the moods, needs and prefer-ences of loved ones, yet their self-neglect can be profound. This text examines how a lack of secure early attachment with caregivers can result in the tendency to self-abandon while managing connections with significant others. Their anxiety and distrust of the connection of others will manifest in anxious monitoring, over-giving, passive aggressive approaches to anger and chronic worry. For them, failure to anticipate and meet the needs of others equals abandonment.

When there is no attachment-abhorrence; one is on the path of liberation [moksha].

When two persons are too close, they fall apart.

When we lose our attachment to symbols and images we are freed from the tyranny of memory.

When we judge and agonize over another's faults, we become attached to their imbalance and sickness.

When you attach your identity to the past, you close the potential to what you can be in the present. You are not anything in your past. Release yourself. You have the power in this very moment to decide who you want to be. You have the power to completely reinvent yourself. Decide what you want and take action.

Where people are really attached, poverty itself is wealth.

Where there is no attachment for the good and abhorrence for the bad is called the state of equanimity. The one without duality is equanimity. In worldly interactions, people identify tolerance as equanimity!

Whether something is wonderful or horrible, the most harmful thought we can think is “Will this last forever?

Who are you without your labels and attachments to the issues you are passionate about? Remove the emotions, remove the beliefs and associations, and simply focus on the rational and practical applications that promote peaceful progression.

Which is more important… to make a million dollars, or to enjoy your life in your effort, little by little, even thought it is impossible to make that million; to be successful, or to find some meaning in your effort to be successful?

Words of an old soul's heart, Portrayal of the matrix art To break from the illusion Of your continuous delusion No chapter good or bad, Not happy, neither sad. Attachement to desire, The heart sparks inner fire.

Who is free from illusory attachment (nirmohi)? The Gnani Purush (the enlightened one). He can see flesh and bones, through and through.

Why are...poor people more ready to share their goods than rich people? The answer is easy: The poor have little to lose; the rich have more to lose and they are more attached to their possessions. Poverty provides a deeper motivation for understanding your neighbors, welcoming others and attending to those who are suffering. I would go so far as to say that poverty helps you understand what happiness is, what serenity is in life.