Best 678 quotes in «attachment quotes» category

We should not allow ourselves to be deceived by our outward show of ‘civilized’ manners and ‘cultured’ social behavior into believing that self-concern, desirous attachment, aversion, and indifference are steadily losing their hold over us.

We should understand the mother and child as a mutually responsive dyad. They are a symbiotic unit that make each other healthier and happier in mutual responsiveness. This expands to other caregivers too. -Darcia Narvaez

We will martyr ourselves, suffering under the weight of a non-reciprocal relationship until some part of us bursts in protest. Suddenly, we lose our mind, and allowing ourselves to heap all manner of nastiness, name calling, patronizing, death threats on the “deserving” jerk who has it coming after all we do for him/her! As the final insult rings across the room and we regain consciousness, we are horrified by what has come out of our mouth. After all, we LOVE these people, and we quickly move into anxious terror that this time we have gone too far . . . this time we crossed the line and they will leave us. So, we hunker back down and the martyrdom begins again. It’s a terrible cycle.

What attachments can you let go of to thrive more and stress less? What commitments can you make that will help you to fly higher in an endeavor that matters?

What cannot be communicated to the [m]other cannot be communicated to the self.

What do the vitarags [the enlightened one] say? This world will keep on running, You do not interfere with anything in it. If you want to attain ultimate liberation (moksha) then you will have maintain a state of vitaragta (state free of attachment).

Whatever work you do in this world; the work itself has no value. If there is attachment-abhorrence behind that work, then only you are responsible for the next life. You are not responsible if attachment-abhorrence don’t occur.

What is considered Sheel? It is when one does not respond to anger with anger, does not respond to pride with pride, does not respond with attachment (raag) towards people with attachment. That is considered Sheel (the highest state of conduct in worldly interaction).

What is attraction (akarshan) in this world? It is open fire and one should be aware of it. Attraction is the open fire. The root of illusory attachment (moha) is indeed attraction.

What is attraction in this world? It is open fire; one should stay cautious there. Attraction is indeed the root of moha (illusory attachment).

What is parigraha (acquisitiveness)? It is not really a graha (stars). If your vision is worldly, then parigraha (owning things other than the self) will latch on to you. If your vision is of the Self (Soul), then it will not latch on.

What is the definition of ‘remaining untouched in the worldly life’? It means that one finds pleasure upon seeing something nice, but he is not to stuck there; he should move on. Then a cactus will appeal to him and a rose will appeal to him. But the world gets stuck there. Getting stuck itself is the pain!

When a thing becomes indispensable it's time to give it up.

When attachment increases too much, dislike will arise.

When attachment does not occur when someone gives flowers and no abhorrence occurs when someone throws stones; that is considered equanimity.

When faced with contrast, take nothing personally and don’t try to defend yourself. Defending one’s self is a vibrational relative of guilt. People will think what they like; do not feed fuel to the fire by reacting. Simply ask questions for clarity and in response say ‘Is that so?’ Take responsibility for the energy you brought to the situation, acknowledge the illusions without attachment, and move forward. Other people’s opinions are none of your business. Remember that each person is on their own unique path, and the mirror of contrast you hold up to them may be exactly what is necessary for their conscious growth at that time.

When I consider the men (like my father) I have treated in psychotherapy, I recognize the challenge I face as a counselor. These men are in counseling due to an insistent wife, troubled child or their own addiction. They suffer a lack of connection with the people they say they love most. Chronically accused of being over controlling or emotionally absent, they feel at sea when their wives and children claim to be lonely in their presence. How can these people feel “un-loved” when (from his perspective) he has dedicated his life to their welfare? Some of these men will express their lack of vitality and emotional engagement though endless service. They are hyperaware of the moods, needs and prefer-ences of loved ones, yet their self-neglect can be profound. This text examines how a lack of secure early attachment with caregivers can result in the tendency to self-abandon while managing connections with significant others. Their anxiety and distrust of the connection of others will manifest in anxious monitoring, over-giving, passive aggressive approaches to anger and chronic worry. For them, failure to anticipate and meet the needs of others equals abandonment.

When there is no attachment-abhorrence; one is on the path of liberation [moksha].

When two persons are too close, they fall apart.

When we lose our attachment to symbols and images we are freed from the tyranny of memory.

When we judge and agonize over another's faults, we become attached to their imbalance and sickness.

When you attach your identity to the past, you close the potential to what you can be in the present. You are not anything in your past. Release yourself. You have the power in this very moment to decide who you want to be. You have the power to completely reinvent yourself. Decide what you want and take action.

When you're attached to something you give it an importance it doesn't have.

When you love someone, you end up caring about each and every person they love. When you hate someone, you end up caring about every single person who hates them.

When you're attached to something, whether through love or hate, you give it an importance it doesn't have.

Where the attachment and abhorrence does not occur is cosidered to be the path of moksha (ultimate liberation).

Where do you see conflict in this world? Only where there is infatuation (attachment).

Where there is no attachment for the good and abhorrence for the bad is called the state of equanimity. The one without duality is equanimity. In worldly interactions, people identify tolerance as equanimity!

Which is more important… to make a million dollars, or to enjoy your life in your effort, little by little, even thought it is impossible to make that million; to be successful, or to find some meaning in your effort to be successful?

Who are you without your labels and attachments to the issues you are passionate about? Remove the emotions, remove the beliefs and associations, and simply focus on the rational and practical applications that promote peaceful progression.

Whether something is wonderful or horrible, the most harmful thought we can think is “Will this last forever?

Why are...poor people more ready to share their goods than rich people? The answer is easy: The poor have little to lose; the rich have more to lose and they are more attached to their possessions. Poverty provides a deeper motivation for understanding your neighbors, welcoming others and attending to those who are suffering. I would go so far as to say that poverty helps you understand what happiness is, what serenity is in life.

Who is free from illusory attachment (nirmohi)? The Gnani Purush (the enlightened one). He can see flesh and bones, through and through.

Words of an old soul's heart, Portrayal of the matrix art To break from the illusion Of your continuous delusion No chapter good or bad, Not happy, neither sad. Attachement to desire, The heart sparks inner fire.

Writing is just another trap if you take it too seriously.

You can find hope in despair. Dwell on positive thoughts.

You are not your mind, because you can change your mind and still be you. Be careful what you attach your identity to. Don't limit yourself by putting yourself in a box. Keep the potential open for the greatest opportunity.

Your fear only holds the power over you that you give to it.

You need to belong to yourself, and let others belong to themselves too. You need to be free and detached from things and your surroundings. You need to build your home in your own simple existence, not in friends, lovers, your career or material belongings, because these are things you will lose one day.

young children, who for whatever reason are deprived of the continuous care and attention of a mother or a substitute-mother, are not only temporarily disturbed by such deprivation, but may in some cases suffer long-term effects which persist Bowlby, J., Ainsworth, M., Boston, M., and Rosenbluth, D. (1956). The effects of mother-child separation: A follow-up study. British Journal of Medical Psychology, 29, 211-249.

Advanced meditators are not even desirous of liberation anymore - that is just another attachment. There is no liberation. There is no bondage. These are just ideas of the mind.

Your personality of the mind is like a castle of sand around the sea. The time you begin to disassociate yourself with different experiences and impressions of both the external and internal world, you won’t find anything inside.

According to Buddhist practice, there are three stages or steps. The initial stage is to reduce attachment towards life. The second stage is the elimination of desire and attachment to this samsara. Then in the third stage, self-cherishing is eliminated

Where people are really attached, poverty itself is wealth.

According to Buddhist psychology most of our troubles stem from attachment to things that we mistakenly see as permanent.

A feeling of aversion or attachment toward something is your clue that there's work to be done.This is quotes copyright © By Pumpkin Limited

Against barbarity, poetry can resist only by confirming its attachment to human fragility like a blade of grass growing on a wall while armies march by.

A growing awareness of the depth of popular attachment to the family has led some liberals to concede that family is not just a buzzword for reaction.

All our attachments are outward oriented and hence this illusion.

All of our miseries are nothing but attachment. Our whole ignorance and darkness is a strange combination of a thousand and one attachments. And we are attached to things which will be taken away by the time of death, or even perhaps before. You may be very much attached to money but you can go bankrupt tomorrow. You may be very much attached to your power and position, your presidency, your prime ministership, but they are like soap bubbles. Today they are here, tomorrow not even a trace will be left.