Best 198 quotes in «ashamed quotes» category

Many veterans feel guilty because they lived while others died. Some feel ashamed because they didn’t bring all their men home and wonder what they could have done differently to save them. When they get home they wonder if there’s something wrong with them because they find war repugnant but also thrilling. They hate it and miss it.Many of their self-judgments go to extremes. A comrade died because he stepped on an improvised explosive device and his commander feels unrelenting guilt because he didn’t go down a different street. Insurgents used women and children as shields, and soldiers and Marines feel a totalistic black stain on themselves because of an innocent child’s face, killed in the firefight. The self-condemnation can be crippling. The Moral Injury, New York Times. Feb 17, 2015

Our need to be "greater than" or "less than" has been a defense against toxic shame. A shameful act was committed upon us. The perpetrator walked away, leaving us with the shame. We absorbed the notion that we are somehow defective. To cover for this we constructed a false self, a masked self. And it is this self that is the overachiever or the dunce, the tramp or the puritan, the powermonger or the pathetic loser.

O [Roman] people be ashamed; be ashamed of your lives. Almost no cities are free of evil dens, are altogether free of impurities, except the cities in which the barbarians have begun to live... Let nobody think otherwise, the vices of our bad lives have alone conquered us... The Goths lie, but are chaste, the Franks lie, but are but are generous, the Saxons are savage in cruelty...but are admirable in chastity...what hope can there be [for the Romans] when the barbarians are more pure [than they]?" -Salvian

Passing their toilet training is the very last thing that some adults did that has made their parents proud of them.

Postpartum depression makes a woman feel like she is in the grip of something dreaded and dark, and it's scary. . . but she's likely ashamed to admit it because she can't explain it!

Perfectionism sucks the air out of your uniqueness and leaves you empty, away from who you could become.

Some disabled people spend a significant amount of their energy on trying to come across as abled or as not that disabled.

Truth hurts only when you’re ashamed of it…which is why most people think the truth hurts.

Victims”, by definition, are those that have just experienced a trauma of some sort. They are going through an entire array of emotions and circumstances that are happening to them internally and/or externally. They are trying to wrap their mind around what just happened to them. They are trying to regain some sort of balance in their mind. They feel violated, cheated, confused, scared, insecure, ashamed, guilty, impotent and at a loss for words/actions/thoughts. Many times, they even feel numb and in shock. Their mind is in a state of crisis and chaos. They are in the “victim stage”. They are truly a “victim” by definition.

People who are ashamed of their heritage cannot be trusted.

She's not ashamed of loving, although those she's loved are few in number; it was/is sweet and true. She's only ashamed she used love as an excuse.

The fact of shame is significant. We feel spontaneously ashamed of the body and its activities. That's a sign of the body's absolute and natural inferiority.' 'Absolute and natural rubbish!' said Rampion indignantly.'shame isn't spontaneous, to begin with. It's artificial, it's acquired. You can make people ashamed of anything. Agonizingly ashamed of wearing brown boots with a black coat, or speaking with the wrong sort of accent, or having a drop at the end of their noses. Of absolutely anything, including the body and its functions. But that particular shame's just as artificial as any other. The Christians invented it, just as the tailors in Savile Row invented the shame of wearing brown boots with a black coat. There was precious little of it before Christian times. Look at the Greeks, the Etruscans.

These are the stories that we tell ourselves and only ourselves, and they are better left unshared.

What a shabby lot of highbrows have turned out tonight," he said, when he saw us. "It makes me ashamed to be one.

Watching corrupt corporate controlled governments willfully damaging the next generation makes me ashamed to be human.

Watching corrupt corporate governments destroy the global environment makes me ashamed to be human.

What happened after that, and will be related later, was something entirely unexpected and so awful that Ludens had never spoken about it afterwards to anyone.

when a child is ridiculed, shamed, hurt or ignored when she experiences and expresses a legitimate dependency need, she will later be inclined to attach those same affective tones to her dependency. Thus, she will experience her own (and perhaps others’) dependency as ridiculous, shameful, painful, or denied. - Dependency in the Treatment of complex PTSD and Dissociative Disorders 2001 Authors: Kathy Steele, Onno van der Hart, Ellert R. S. Nijenhuis

When I was hired from Europe to work atop Mauna Kea, I had no idea how sacred the mountain was to the Hawaiians. Today, I am ashamed that I worked at the Mauna Kea Observatories (MKO).

Willful ignorance is something to be ashamed of, not proud.

You cannot really shame a man who sincerely does not care what others think of him.

Woodget glanced into the dim shadows behind the trees. "What you be hiding fer?" he called. "On such a night as this even the greatest may hide and not be ashamed," came the response.

You should read the novel in order to live, to feel, to tell someone the hidden secret of it. Read as if its your story, search your character in it. You should never read a book, if you feel ashamed of telling its story... Respect book or never read it.

Actions rare and sudden do commonly proceed from fierce necessity, of else from some oblique design, which is ashamed to show itself in the public road.

We would not be ashamed of doing some of the things we do in private, if the number of sane human beings who do them in public were large enough.

A decent human being is ashamed at being somebody's boss!

As long as you care as much as I care, you can't be ashamed of anything.

And how have I lived? Frankly and openly, though crudely. I have not been afraid of life. I have not shrunk from it. I have taken it for what it was at its own valuation. And I have not been ashamed of it. Just as it was, it was mine.

A lot of women feel ashamed to be weak.

Because of the Republicans, I'm not ashamed of being an American. I'm embarrassed!

Be not ashamed to confess that you have been in the wrong. It is but owning that you now have more sense than you had before, to see your error; more humility to acknowledge it; more grace to correct it.

Be not ashamed to have had wild days, but not to have sown your wild oats.

Beware of jokes from which we go away hollow and ashamed.

But I love filmmaking - I'm not ashamed of that. You're sort of vilified if you say that in England.

As soon as she (woman) begins to be ashamed of what she ought not, she will not be ashamed of what she ought.

Be ashamed to catch yourself idle.

Be ashamed when you sin, not when you repent.

Character repudiates intellect, yet excites it; and character passes into thought, is published so, and then is ashamed before newflashes of moral worth.

Colin stared at the officer. “Thorne, you scare me. I’m not ashamed to say it.

Don't be ashamed to let your conscience be your guide.

Dissimulation was his masterpiece; in which he so much excelled that men were not ashamed of being deceived but twice by him.

Everyone needs a sense of shame, but no one needs to feel ashamed.

Cold-hearted Elinor! Oh! Worse than cold-hearted! Ashamed of being otherwise.--Marianne Dashwood

don't be ashamed of anything; I guess God meant it all like locks on doors.

For reasons that I don't fully understand, Twitter is a place where I don't feel ashamed to say my most shameful thoughts.

England is perhaps the only great country whose intellectuals are ashamed of their own nationality.

He that is ashamed to speak the truth has need to be ashamed of himself.

I always feel that as the author, once I know what a character is ashamed of, then I can go about making her truthful on the page.

I am a composer in search of oblivion; and I'm always slightly ashamed to admit that I compose.

I am ashamed of confessing that I have nothing to confess.